Yes to Me is now Real Life Spirituality

It was a Monday morning. I was thinking of my day while wiggling in the comfort of my bed. Suddenly, it hit me. “My blog needs a new name.”

I started my blog two years ago. At the time, I just quit my corporate job and was starting my business. I was starting to live fully in an authentic way, saying a big “YES!” to the part of me that I had repressed so long. I wanted to, and still do, help others do the same — to say the big YES to be wholly present in life rather than living in autopilot and hoping something would change someday. So I named my blog “Yes to Me”.

I love this name, but I also feel this blog has grown up out of this name. What would be a good new name?

The main message of this blog is that we are all spiritual beings living in the physical bodies, so everything in life is spiritual. Spirituality is the start and the end, not a special area in life. Yet I see so many people who want to pigeonhole spirituality. I also see many people who want to improve their spirituality but scared with the weird gurus and their teachings.

We need spirituality blog that relates and works in real life! That is what I’ve been writing about really. So, the new name “Real Life Spirituality” is born. (Confetti flying. Cheers ) I hope you like the new name as much as I do.

As of this writing (morning of Feb 24th), I have completed the link redirection from yes-to-me.com to reallifespirituality.com. So all the bookmarks and links you may have or see on other sites stay good. I am trying to figure out how to redirect the feed, which seems difficult — so while you are here, please take 15 seconds to subscribe to this blog at this new address (free, of course) either by RSS Feed or by email. This guarantees you won’t miss future articles on Real Life Spirituality.

My web designer and I are also working to change the header and favicon. They will be updated in a day or so.

Thank you for your readership and I hope to see you again on this new domain.

Are You The Only Spiritual Person You Know?

My dear readers, do you consider yourself spiritual? I guess so — you are reading a spirituality blog about “Lightworkers’ Empowerment & Ascension”. Now the second question: do you know other spiritual people at work, at your hobby circle, or as your relatives?

No? That must make you feel lonely. It’s hard to practice Divine Love when you don’t connect with your friends on a deep level.

In this article, I challenge you with your concept of a “spiritual” person because I think there is a stereotype of such spiritual seeker and this stereotype is isolating us. (photo credit)

Who is the holistic, New Age, spiritual person?

When I was starting my Akashic Record Reading service, I hired a marketing coach, who advised me to figure out my target clients. My actual clients don’t all have to fall into this target clients group, but it’s helpful to figure out the typical clients for the sake of effective marketing.

She told me my target clients are women in their thirties to fifties “who would read Oprah magazine.” Perhaps she practices yoga and eats Kashi whole-grain bars. The opposite of the guy who appears in the beer advertisement. I remember thinking, “But men, too, would be interested in my service and benefit from it a big time. I think about 30% of my clients will be men.”

Now I don’t have the exact numbers, but I think men constitute about 20 to 25% of my clients. In Spirit Guides Coaching, as many as 50% of my clients are men. As she said, not all of my clients fall into her target group — in fact many do not. . .

(By the way, this coach gave me many valuable advice and I’m so grateful to her. Her stereotype of the spiritual type was only a very minor thing and it was actually illuminating to hear her talk about this stereotype. If you are thinking of starting your own business, I highly recommend investing in a good marketing advice from someone who knows the kind of business you aspire to start.)

Profile of my clients

My clients — the people who order my soul reading — are very diverse. Demographically, they are women and men of all age groups. The youngest client who came to me on their own is 18 years old (I’ve done some readings for children under this age who were brought to me by their parents). Oldest? I don’t remember exactly, but I’ve done many readings for retired people. They come from all over the world. Because my website is English only at this time, many are from English speaking countries (US, Canada, UK, Australia, New Zealand …) but there are many clients whose English is their second language.

Their professions vary big timing, too, including office workers, engineers, doctors, lawyers, CPAs, artists, owners of various size businesses, teachers, government workers, students, homemakers, etc.

Oh, and Christian ministers. I heard many Christian schools deny the idea of reincarnation, but the fact is quite a few Christians are accepting it. Organized religion is not about rigid dogma these days. There are also clients of other faiths and those who don’t consider themselves religious.

Some of my clients are healers, such as energy healers, chiropractors, doctors, nurses, counselors, etc. Some of them send me their clients for synergetic effects. I guess time is changing . . . just a few years ago, it would have been hard to imagine a M.D. sending their patients for soul reading . . .

Our own judgment against non-spiritual people

So perhaps a more appropriate question is: Who is NOT spiritual?

And I am immediately reminded of this quotation:

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardi

So everyone is spiritual. The person next to you on the bus, your coworker, your golf buddy . . . they may not be aware of their spirituality yet, but that awareness can happen in a flash second. Or one life challenge such as loss of a loved one, their own health problem, deeply disturbing relationship issue, or one sleepless night wondering the meaning of life.

We are all spiritual. It’s our own judgment to consider someone is not.

Start talking about spirituality

So do yourself a favor. Don’t set yourself up in a silo. Don’t limit yourself in the narrow circle of “spiritual” seekers. Start talking about spirituality with the people around you.

How? Well, standing on the street and asking the passers-by “Do you believe in God?” may not be your style. Relax, and just talk about what is on your mind, or ask them what is on their mind lately. Relationship? Money? Concern about potential layoff? These, like everything in life, can be discussed to spiritual depth.

I just shamelessly linked to my posts on each of these topics. May I even suggest sharing these articles with your friends — that will open up the discussion.

The person you talk to may or may not open up right away. But remember you are doing this for yourself. You don’t want to be the only spiritual person you know. And really, you may be pleasantly surprised. My coaching clients often say something like, “Well, the other day, I was talking with this guy — I knew him for many years but never really connected deeply. Turns out he is a lot more spiritual than I thought he was . . .”

Any comments? Let’s talk ^_^

Best Spirituality Blog Posts 2008

So many great blogs on spiritual development!  I feel strongly that we are accelerating our spiritual evolution these recent years.  Maybe it’s the 2012 thing (just joking).

I called for the best spirituality blog posts of this year, and received these great articles.  With lots of love and gratitude, let me present them in the order they were sent my way, with snippets from the posts:

From You Are Truly Loved by Ariel Bravy

Spiritual Truth Is Experiential, Not A Belief System
“Spiritual Truth is something to know, to experience, not something to believe in. The joy and love and peace of God can be actually experienced once you know how to access it.”

The Ego: Your Emotional Gatekeeper
“Nothing out there makes you happy. There is nothing outside of yourself that ever will make you happy.”

From Heal Pain Naturally by Jenny Mannion

Art – Spirituality And Healing
“Art is spiritual and healing in a multitude of ways. You need not be a professional artist to benefit from expressing yourself through art. You do not need to be an art connoisseur to be moved to tears of joy from the beauty of a painting or another art form.”

From Healing And Insight by Anna Conlan

How To Find Your Calling As A Lightworker
“If you’re a lightworker, your purpose will inevitably be some variant on this theme: to serve others; to contribute something good to this world; to raise consciousness.”

From Erin Pavlina . Com by Erin Pavlina

Understanding Your Life Purpose
“Your life purpose is not to be an accountant, a writer, a coach, or an airline pilot.  No. Those are mediums with which you can express your life purpose.  Your life purpose is more about who you are at your core and what you are here to learn and give than it is about what you do for a living.”

Are You Afraid to Be Rich?
“Say this phrase out loud to yourself: ‘Sure I want to be rich…’ and if you feel the urge to add a ‘but’ at the end of the sentence then examine the limiting belief that’s about to come out of your mouth.”

Christopher, who is the regular commenter at Yes to Me, sent me this interesting article.
The Universe As A Hologram
“(Michael Talbot) depicted a theoretical model of reality that suggests the physical universe is akin to a giant hologram.”
Honestly, I don’t think I understood the article fully.  But if you are good with science, please check this out and let me know what you think.  The integration of spirituality and science is one of the most exciting development these days.

From Shift Your Spirits by Slade Roberson

Relatively Quiet, Significantly Present
“I can’t help but notice how the most significant moments in my interior life are so relatively quiet. . . The Present may disappoint you in its ordinariness. “

What’s Wrong with What You Want
“Wanting something, needing something, is by definition lacking it. I’m always contemplating powers of manifestation and laws of attraction within the context of language — how language can certainly enhance your power, but also how it often insidiously detracts.”

From Light Beckons by Irene Seah

Glass Half Full
“I’ve learnt that we need to start asking also, ‘What’s right with me?’.  Start finding the little things that you’re happy about yourself, your ‘gifts’, no matter how weird they may seem to you.”

From Woo Woo Wisdom by Mags

Make Up Your Mind!
“The issue of choice has followed me around my whole life. . . are you making choices in your life, or expressing preferences? “

Providing Value To The World
“How are you providing value to the world?  Like many people, your initial answer to this question will probably revolve around what you’re doing to provide value and to contribute towards the upliftment of the world… “

From Urban Monk by Albert Foong

The Importance Of Setting Personal Boundaries
“When do we say no, and when do we say yes? Is saying no a sign of selfishness or a sign of strength? Is saying yes a sign of weakness, or a sign of generosity and compassion?”

A Tested Guide To Transcending Your Fears And Finally Live Your Life’s Purpose
“What is the first – perhaps the only – difference between living your dream and stagnating?
The fundamental difference is fear. Fear of losing it all; fear of what another might think; fear of being less than enough.”

Finally, my pick of my own posts from Yes to Me:

Living Your Life Purpose

I hope this post works as the resource of your further spiritual growth.  Thank you participants and readers! (Photo by paulaloe)

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