How to Resolve Any Problem Quickly And Easily

I have a good news. Whether your problem is about relationship, money, health, whether it’s job loss or addiction or loss of a loved one, whatever the problem is, one simple approach can relieve you from your suffering. (Photo credit)

How we usually deal with problems

Before we discuss this new way of dealing with problems, let’s review how we are taught to handle problems. There are two ways:

1. Ignore the problem as best as you can and hope it will go away or resolve on its own. This is hardly a problem solving technique, but I guess we take this approach fairly often. There are just so many problems in our lives, many of them seemingly too big to resolve with our own power.

2. Work on the problem to fix it. There are many problem solving techniques we can learn and apply. Typically, these problem solving techniques require analysis of the current situation, setting up goals, and making plan to achieve these goals.  If it’s a relationship problem, for example, you may want to discuss the issue with your partner, take relationship counseling, learn new relationship skills.

The trouble of the second approach is, proactive as it is, it is still a way to deal with the problem on the same level of awareness that created the problem in the first place. So even when we “resolve” the problem at hand, we often find ourselves having the same kind of problem soon enough.

For instance, you may resolve the current relationship problems only to find new ones as your life progress. Or you may have dumped the relationship partner that presented so many problems only to find your new mate presents their own personality quarks that disturb you.

So what do you do? Use the same problem solving technique again, discussing the issue with your partner, taking relationship counseling, and learning new relationship skills, etc.?

I am not against the idea of this approach. Surely there is a place for honest discussion, coupled with self-reflection. Surely it’s great to learn relationship skills, and if your parents weren’t the great role models, seeking professional help may promote your growth big time.

But there is something amiss. If this approach of problem solving is truly good, why do we keep having the same kind of problems over and over?

And of course, relationship is just one example. How many people do you know who loses a job, get another one (sometimes after taking educational courses for new job skills), only to find them lose that job again, or worse yet, hating that new job so much that job loss may look like a blessing in disguise?

Even with health problems. Some people seek out all kinds of healing and healthcare, make a big lifestyle change, and manage to resolve the problem or at least get the condition under control. Many of them, however, develop new dis-eases soon that put them back to the frantic mode of healing.

Why the problem solving techniques fail

Because you are working against the problem. You hate the problem, be it relationship problem, unemployment, debts, or diseases. You hate it and you work to fix and get rid of it.

This way of thinking feeds the mechanism of the problem energetically. As a result, the solution is usually only short-term.

Love your problem

So I am suggesting to love your problem. This is the first and most essential step BEFORE you take any other actions such as seeking professional help or learning new skills. I am not against the idea of the various “practical” approaches you can take — as I wrote just a few paragraphs earlier, there are places for such actions. But the first step is to love your problem.

There is a meaning why you are having the problem. On the soul level, you chose to experience that problem. You are finally getting to the challenging part of your life movie — exciting!

Bless your problem. Not because you think you should do so, but because you appreciate the whole experience the “problem” has presented in your life.

When you love your problem, it completes the learning cycle energetically. Watch the problem evaporate in front of your eyes. This may look like a magical dissolution of the problem or you may feel so differently that you may choose to live with what you previously perceived as a problem.

Isn’t it difficult to love a problem?

Yes and no. It takes no time to love — you just decide to love. But because we are so conditioned to seek out a certain “problem-free” condition, it may take some trial and error to free yourself from it and to really love your problem.

If you are having any kind of problem and feeling down, my hugs go to you. I’ve had my share, perhaps too many to write right here. I also encourage you to see this as an opportunity. God never send you more problems than you can handle, even thought at times it may feel like too much.

In this physical world, we cannot go back to the past and change what has happened. But we can appreciate the learning process. And when you do, there is something quite miraculous about it. You become truly free from “problems” that are waiting for resolutions. You find yourself living in unconditional bliss.