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		<title>Soul And Higher Self In The Virtual Reality Game</title>
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<blockquote><p>DUKE SENIOR:<br />
Thou seest we are not all alone unhappy,<br />
This wide and universal theatre<br />
Presents more woeful pageants than the scene<br />
Wherein we play in.</p>
<p>JAQUES:<br />
All the world&#8217;s a stage,<br />
And all the men and women merely players:<br />
&#8211; from “As You Like It” by William Shakespeare</p></blockquote>
<p>I don’t play computer games, but from what I hear, some games like role playing games seem to make a great analogy to explain the difference and relationship between our souls and Higher Selves.</p>
<h3><strong>The Earth Experiment, the virtual reality simulation game</strong></h3>
<p>Your Higher Self is the true you. Beyond the Higher Self level, we are not individual any more &#8212; we are one. In other words, the Higher Self is the highest form of consciousness we remain as individual.</p>
<p>Our Higher Selves gathered here to participate in this Earth Experiment. It’s an interesting and beautiful experiment in which we incarnate in physical bodies to experience various things.</p>
<p>Now when you play computer games, you cannot be in the game, right?  You use your avatar to do various things in the game. When you are really into the game, you may feel you are the avatar, but technically that is not true. You are the player of the game, the avatar is the character in the game.</p>
<p>Likewise, our Higher Selves are not in this virtual reality game. They made their avatars to play the game. Unlike some cheap games, in this Earth Experiment, you get to make your own unique avatar. Your avatar is made after yourself.</p>
<p>Because your Higher Self works like a prototype of your soul, it’s also called the “oversoul.”</p>
<p>And now the game had started. We are so into the game that we “feel” we are in this “reality”. Just like you don’t notice anything (like your spouse calling you for dinner) when you are into playing the game. You are in the world of the game.</p>
<p>But that doesn’t mean the game is your true reality.</p>
<h3><strong>Death in the virtual reality game</strong></h3>
<p>This game we are playing is a huge, very complex game. Now, when you play computer games, you can stop at some point &#8212; like, to have dinner with your spouse. Likewise, we don’t need to complete the game in one shot. In fact, the game is so huge that trying to complete it in one sitting is not appropriate.</p>
<p>So the avatar experiences “death” from time to time. When this happens, the soul goes to the back “room” or “area”.  When you want to play the game again, you use the same avatar (reincarnation), but you can choose different settings.  Different settings with different faces, but the soul’s learning and growth continues.</p>
<h3><strong>Ascension soul shift in this analogy</strong></h3>
<p>Some of us have had <a href="http://reallifespirituality.com/ascension-soul-shifts-walk-ins/" target="_blank">Ascension soul shift</a>. This is like upgrading the avatar. The new avatar is still made after yourself &#8212; your new soul is made after your own Higher Self. Yet it’s a new avatar. (Like, avatar 2.0 &#8212; with new ability to jump to higher dimensions! ha ha ^_^).</p>
<p>Some people get confused about Ascension soul shift. They feel as if something takes over “them”.  This is simply not the case. You are your Higher Self and upgrading the avatar for more power doesn’t change the big picture.</p>
<p>Some people also asked, “Oh, I thought we are the same souls that live in many bodies, but are you telling the body stays and the soul changes? Like the vehicle stays while the driver changes?”  Well, not really. The appearance of the avatar (the body) stays the same in this lifetime, but we can still upgrade the avatar.   And whether you have the Ascension soul shift or not, you are ultimately your Higher Self.</p>
<h3><strong>Past and future in the virtual reality game</strong></h3>
<p>This analogy works well to explain the concept of time. In this virtual reality game, the game unfolds only in one way, from past to present to future.  The one-way time rule is made to make the game more fun. It’s not fun if some players keep going back to the past phases to “correct their mistakes”.  Plus, there are plenty of opportunities to alter the directions of your path built in at various phases of the game, so you don’t have to worry too much about your past mistakes.</p>
<p>When you make a decision, you are changing the way the game unfolds for you. This way, we  are creating our future. At the same time, we can say all the possible futures (and there are many of them &#8212; this Earth Experiment game is very complex) are already built in the game.  So the future already exist in a way &#8212; it’s there for our choosing.</p>
<p>And our Higher Selves, along with our spirit guides and other beings, are free from this time constraint because they are not in the game.</p>
<h3><strong>Seeking the purpose of life</strong></h3>
<p>So what is the point of this Earth Experiment game?</p>
<p>Some people think the purpose of life is to get what they want, be it a lot of money, wonderful partners and good family life, fame and power, etc. These are all fun things to acquire in this game. (And the effective technique to acquire them is called the <a href="http://reallifespirituality.com/the-law-of-attraction-works/">Law of Attraction</a>. It serves to learn some basic skills in this game.)</p>
<p>But I think it’s boring to be stuck with my acquisitions. It’s like refusing to move forward in this virtual reality game. What’s the point of sitting in the same screen with a lot of dots?</p>
<p>It seems those who become very wealthy and stay that way are either those who continue to grow in other areas of their lives or those who are spiritually immature.  (Nothing wrong with the latter &#8212; there will be time when they get so bored that they have to move on. We cannot really resist the unfolding of this game so long. )</p>
<p>Then, is the purpose of life to be happy, ideally, <a href="http://reallifespirituality.com/happy-for-no-reason-marci-shimoff/">happy for no reason</a>?  <a href="http://reallifespirituality.com/soul’s-purpose-for-incarnation/">Joy</a> is certainly a good indicator that we are proceeding in this game.  But happiness for happiness’ sake seem oxymoronic.</p>
<h3><strong>The ultimate purpose of life</strong></h3>
<p>I think the ultimate purpose of life is to complete this game. The game is one thing our Higher Selves chose to do. It is not the end of itself.</p>
<p>Of course, I don’t mean completing it for the heck of completing it. We are playing this game for a good reason. We want to experience this physical world, to have full range of emotions, to create the various things we love.</p>
<p>When will we complete the game?  Will it take another thousands of years and many lifetimes?  Or is it just two years until 2012?  Somewhere in between?</p>
<p>Well, like all things, I think the answer is different for each of us. Some Higher Selves complete the game early and some would take longer.  It’s okay. It’s not a competition. You can even choose to play it slow, enjoying every phase of the game.</p>
<h3><strong>The nature of our “reality”</strong></h3>
<p>Hmm, this analogy of life as a virtual reality game played by our Higher Selves using the souls as avatars seem to work too well. Maybe it’s not just an analogy but is very close to truth?</p>
<p>Does the idea that this life, this “reality” that we perceive on a daily basis, is just a virtual reality game blow your mind?  Well, quite a few of us are starting to notice it, though. Here is a post by Hunter Nuttall “<a href="http://hunternuttall.com/blog/2010/06/a-glitch-in-the-matrix/">Everything’s an Illusion</a>”  From the article:</p>
<blockquote><p>In 1931, Austrian logician Kurt Gödel proved his two incompleteness theorems . . . What Gödel proved is that every formal system of sufficient complexity is either inconsistent or incomplete (or both). That is, it’s either too weak to prove everything it should, or it’s strong enough to prove something it shouldn’t. In other words, there’s a glitch in every matrix. . . If there’s a glitch in every matrix, then what is real? How do you define real?</p></blockquote>
<p>I highly recommend reading it especially if you are inclined to technical analytical thinking.</p>
<p>And what did Shakespeare really mean by “this wide and universal theatre”?  <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/stuckincustoms/3792320953/in/faves-22353276@N08">(Photo credit)</a>
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		<title>Review: The Spontaneous Healing Of Belief By Gregg Braden</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:12:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Book review of The Spontaneous Healing Of Belief by Gregg Braden. Great read that bridges science and spirituality.


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am so glad I found this book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401916902?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=siwomo-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=1401916902">The Spontaneous Healing of Belief</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=siwomo-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401916902" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> by Gregg Braden because it gives scientific explanations on so many ideas I’m familiar with, such as the<a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/06/02/the-true-nature-of-reality/"> true nature of reality</a>, our <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/05/28/creating-your-life-and-the-new-world/">creative power over our own lives and on the world</a>, and the <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/03/13/the-law-of-attraction-how-to-use-it-to-your-favor/">Law of Attraction</a> with the power of feelings.  The book also serves as a great follow up on Dr Bruce Lipton’s <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/04/12/review-the-biology-of-belief-by-bruce-lipton/">The Biology Of Belief</a>, by discussing what belief can do beyond our individual body.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401916902?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=siwomo-20&amp;link_code=as3&amp;camp=211189&amp;creative=373489&amp;creativeASIN=1401916902"><img class="size-full wp-image-1591 alignleft" style="margin: 10px;" title="belief" src="http://reallifespirituality.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/belief.jpg" alt="belief" width="107" height="160" /></a></p>
<h3><strong>Reality as simulation game</strong></h3>
<p>Gregg Braden cites various scientific studies to show us that this everyday world we live in is a computer simulation, a virtual reality on a giant scale, in the Universal computer.  What we call reality is not real, but only a reflection of true reality.</p>
<p>This idea of life as dream (or, I call it “living movie” in the article linked above) is often mentioned in the various spirituality traditions, and it’s so refreshing to see science finally catching up.  (By the way, this idea is present in the Bible, too.  It says Adam fell a deep sleep &#8212; but it doesn’t say he woke up. So, we can interpret this that we are living in Adam’s dream.)</p>
<p>The good news is we are not just living in a simulation but we can reprogram the simulation, too.  We are the actors as well as the directors in this living movie.  We are the creatures as well as the creators.  We are active participants, not just a powerless victims or observers.</p>
<p>How do we reprogram the Universal computer program?  By our beliefs.  By shattering the old paradigm of false limitations and adopting new beliefs.  You know, not just wishing, not just wanting to believe, but believing from the bottom of your heart, with all your feelings.</p>
<p>Gregg Braden shares that our heart emits electric and magnetic energies.  On the other hand, it is proven that electric or magnetic energies can change the nature of atoms, the building blocks of this world.  So when we believe, when we feel the new possibility with our heart, the electromagnetic energy from the heart can change the atoms in and around us, changing the so-called reality.</p>
<h3><strong>The Earth experiment</strong></h3>
<p>Gregg Braden also discusses what it may mean that this world we live in is a simulation.  A simulation is usually used for training.  So are we getting trained to better live in the true reality?</p>
<p>This is basically the same of what I call the <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/04/20/creating-the-new-world-light/">Earth experiment</a>.  Our Higher Selves (also called oversouls) send individual souls to this world to &#8212; experience.  There is no <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/11/15/dualism/">judgment</a> really.  We are here to <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2008/11/30/living-your-life-purpose/">learn</a>, and mastery of the learning leads to <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/09/07/soul’s-purpose-for-incarnation/">joy</a>.</p>
<p>If you are experiencing difficulty in life, that just means you are at a great learning point &#8212; just as when you are in simulation program and facing difficult situation.  You can keep trying in your old malfunctioning manner until you figure a new way that works. (I’m sorry if this statement sounds cynical &#8212; it is not.  I really mean difficulties are great learning opportunities.)</p>
<h3><strong>The Law of Attraction and the Field</strong></h3>
<p>So we have the creative power.  Gregg Braden explains this process by introducing the idea of the “Field”, also called zero-point field, or <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401905730?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=siwomo-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=1401905730">The Divine Matrix</a><img style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=siwomo-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401905730" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> (which is the title of his book that precedes this one)</p>
<p>What we think and feel, what we believe, we can create &#8212; we can manifest.  This is the same with the Law of Attraction, but I like Gregg Braden’s way of explanation.  I always felt LoA is more about creation and the word “attraction” causes unnecessary misunderstanding.  I know it works, and now we have a better way to understand it.</p>
<p>Here is a video clip where he explains all this, giving the skinny of this book &#8220;The Spontaneous Healing of Belief&#8221;:</p>
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<h3><strong>Working the miracles of belief</strong></h3>
<p>In this book, Gregg Braden also says,</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Through the healing of our beliefs, we discover how &#8212; with the grace and ease that comes from experiencing ourselves as part of the world rather than separate from it.  When we do so, we become the seed of life’s miracles, as well as the miracles themselves.&#8221; (page 207)</p></blockquote>
<p>Miracles like reversing dis-eases and living just as long as you want.  Gregg Braden is smart and doesn’t use the emotionally-charged word “<a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/10/08/how-to-ascend/">immortality</a>”, but he does talk about super longevity, saying, “The first 100 years are the hardest.”</p>
<p>He talks about redirecting time, space and matter, so I guess immortality is pretty much in his scope.</p>
<p>So how do you want to rewrite your “reality”?  What kind of miracles do you want to work on?  Now you know how to change your life and the world.   Don’t just sit back and complain.  That does absolutely no good.  Changing your belief, rewriting the computer program, brings change.</p>
<blockquote><p>“Whatsoever you shall ask, believing, you shall receive.” &#8212; Jesus (Matthew 21:22)</p></blockquote>
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		<title>What If Everything That Happens To You Is Good?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Sep 2009 21:07:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Akemi</dc:creator>
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I guess the common sentiment we have about life is, “Well, there are good things and bad things that happen in life.  We can’t help it.  Just enjoy the good and lie low when bad things happen.”</p>
<p>So we are grateful when we receive “good” things like loving relationships, friends and family, foods on the table and the roof over the head, the money that gets these good things, the job &#8212; the income source, health, long life, and so on.</p>
<p>And we don’t like “bad” things like loneliness, relationship problems, hunger, poverty, job loss, obesity, illness, disability, aging, and death.  We don’t even like thinking about them, and when it happens, we are upset, confused, resentful, and wish they go away ASAP.</p>
<p>This is just natural, right?</p>
<h3><strong>The challenge of the hypothesis</strong></h3>
<p>My spirit guides challenged me a few weeks ago (the week before my moving, to be exact) with the question, “What if everything that happens to you is good?” I immediately knew this is right, but it took me a while to put it into reason.</p>
<p>“Like EVERYTHING?”  You may be thinking. &#8220;What is good about a psycho boyfriend / girlfriend, or hopeless poverty, or painful disease?&#8221;</p>
<p>Well, yes.  They are good because they are great learning opportunities.   You didn’t bring it up to reality if they were no good.  (Remember you are creating your own life and the world?)</p>
<p>Now when I say “learning opportunities”, there are mainly two things we can learn.  One is the <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/02/24/how-to-find-your-life-purpose-through-your-life-challenges/">life lessons</a> and associated lessons.  We don’t have to learn them the hard way, but many of us do choose so.  We have discussed this into detail already on this Yes to Me blog.</p>
<p>Another is the crooked thinking patterns we have.  These “bad” things are like an alarm going off, “There is something kinked up in you, please take a look!” Alarm is annoying but not bad.</p>
<p>Let me put it this way.  God sends us love, love, and more love.  Unconditionally.  They are all good.  But some gifts are a bit different.  God may be sending you a bit of herbal medicine or a gift card to chiropractor because God noticed there is something about you that needs care, even if you may not have noticed.  And you complain that the medicine tastes bad or you are too busy to go to the chiropractor.</p>
<p>Now I got tested about this hypothesis right away. . .</p>
<h3><strong>What is a traffic ticket trying to say?</strong></h3>
<p>On my first moving day (I spent two days moving, first doing the move in, then doing the move out with movers carrying my furniture), I was driving on a freeway and just casually tried to change my lane.  I guess I wasn’t looking well enough.  The car on the fast lane horned, I got back to my lane, and . . . well, the police car was right behind me.</p>
<p>Few things are more embarrassing and annoying than getting a traffic ticket.  And seeing an angry cop’s face in the rear-view mirror.</p>
<p>So what is good about this?  I need to learn how to drive safe?  Well, maybe that’s included, but that’s not all.</p>
<p>After I was released, I was talking to myself.  I actually talked aloud in my car because I wanted to see how this worked:</p>
<p>Akemi 1: So what is good about this traffic ticket?  This just sucks.</p>
<p>Akemi 2: Well, let’s see.  Why do you think it’s bad?</p>
<p>Akemi 1: Because I hate cops.</p>
<p>Akemi 2: He wasn’t too bad.  I’d say he treated me quite fairly &#8212; he didn’t yell or do something intimidating.  He was just doing his job, and even if you don’t like him, so what?  It’s not like you have to marry him.</p>
<p>Akemi 1: This is going to be on my driving record.  (And on my Akashic Records, too!)  And I have to pay the fine.</p>
<p>Akemi 2: Yes, it will take up some of my time, depending on what you want to do with it.  We can go to the court or we can just pay it.</p>
<p>Akemi 1: I hate paying the fine!  And it’s not just the fine, the auto insurance premium will go up, too, you know.</p>
<p>Akemi 2: Yes, but we can pay.</p>
<p>Akemi 1: I . . . I’m afraid.  It will cost a lot. Insurance is expensive.</p>
<p>At this point, I stopped and thought.  So aside from the emotional unpleasantness (which is only temporary), what’s really bothering me is the financial concern?  Really?</p>
<h3><strong>Our hidden fear and why we hold onto it</strong></h3>
<p>Now I know that, when we have fear, it’s because we are holding onto it.  Most fears are temporary &#8212; like, you may get serious fear if another car comes too close to you, but that goes away pretty quickly.  And we are holding onto the fear because we are afraid of something else that may come if we let go of the first fear.  So in this crooked logic, holding onto the first fear feels safer.</p>
<p>Akemi 2: Are you afraid of becoming poor?  But it’s not likely we become poor with one traffic ticket.  What is the real issue?  Am I getting something by holding onto this fear of poverty?</p>
<p>Akemi 1: . . .</p>
<p>Akemi 2: Does being concerned about money make you feel safe?  What’s going to happen if I release this fear of poverty?</p>
<p>The answer that came out of my own mouth surprised me.</p>
<p>Akemi 1:  . . . I might become wildly rich.</p>
<p>Gee.  Really.  But it seems true.  Fear of wealth is far bigger than fear of poverty.  I wasn’t aware of this before.</p>
<h3><strong>Opportunity to examine your fear</strong></h3>
<p>Fear of wealth or fear of success is a tricky one.  We use lack of money or opportunity as an excuse of not living a great life.  I think many of us are secretly afraid of living a full happy life even when we say the complete opposite.  It involves a huge responsibility to oneself (to God) to live that way.</p>
<p>Are you doing something similar to what I was doing?  Are you afraid of releasing your crazy partner (or afraid of getting out of the pattern of having relationship with crazy partners, therefore switching from one crazy one to another) because without them, you are faced with yourself, and you have no distraction nor excuse not to express your great self and live your life purposefully?</p>
<p>Are you holding onto your health problem and your fear of recovering to great health because, without the health problem, you have little to complain and commiserate, and you are afraid of losing people’s attention?  And because you are afraid you may have a miraculous healing power science hasn’t uncovered yet?  And again, without the disease, you have no excuse not to live a great life?</p>
<p>I guess I may be upsetting some people especially with the last one.  I’m not a doctor and I don’t claim to know your health condition nor your possibility to recover.  I do have a feeling many people cling to their condition as an excuse.  One of my Spirit Guides Coaching client was this way.  Her spirit guides was urging to let go of certain things, but she was absolutely against it.  Just to be sure, I asked her about her medical diagnosis, and all she could say was something that happened more than 20 years ago.  She was taking full advantage of her (past) health problem and was nowhere near releasing it, even though she insisted the opposite.</p>
<h3><strong>So what really happens if everything that happens to you is good?</strong></h3>
<p>Then you just have to accept this universe is absolutely benevolent and loving.  There is just no way you don’t live as an empowered free soul, expressing your gifts and strengths, and living a full life of love and joy.  No point about complaining, fighting, accusing, or even “working on the problem” &#8212; we can just go straight to the point and live our life fully.</p>
<p>My feeling is that, in the past, our awareness was not clear enough to see this so we perceived certain things as “bad” based on superficial consequences.  However, we are growing up to see the bigger picture.</p>
<p>When our awareness really grows, everything starts to look really good, even without thinking, &#8220;Okay, this may be a learning opportunity. . .&#8221;  We get to be grateful for everything there is.  We get to see everything as the divine gifts that they are.  That, my friends, is the entrance to the heaven on Earth.  <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/arturodonate/3777641105/">(Photo credit)</a>
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