Creating The New World, Part 5 Power

This is the fifth part of the Creating The New World series.  In this series, we have been exploring the ways to create the New World based on the five divine energy flows of Love, Light, Truth, Abundance, and Power.  It has grown to a huge writing, so after this post, I will write another one to sum up and to present a big picture of the New World.

Embracing our Divine Power

Divine Power is by far the hardest concept in the five energies to understand accurately and therefore hard to embrace.  We have seen too many authoritative figures who abuse their worldly power for their own greed.  You probably have been disgusted by them and swore not to be like them.  But wait . . . that doesn’t mean you need to relinquish your inner power!

The power I’m talking about is our innate power to create.  It’s the power of our free will.  We are free to make our choices, and as we make choices, we create our lives.  Together we create this world.

We all have this power.  Even if you are penniless, living with abusive family, or in poor health, you do.  The issue is you may not be using this power.

Free will is the best gift from God

One of the frequently asked questions in my Akashic Record Reading is “Why didn’t my spirit guides (or God or Angel) prevent me from getting into this trouble?  Why don’t they just hold my hand and guide me through the best path?  Isn’t it cruel and unkind to leave me where I am?”

The answer is: They don’t leave you.  They are always with you.  But they love you so much that they respect your free will.  You are free to make mistakes and learn from them.  Whatever horrible mistake you make, they don’t abandon you, and if you end up dead, you are still loved and you will get another go.

Spirits do have different mode of operation.  In our human common sense, there are times we might want to intervene.  For example, if your child is getting involved with criminals and playing with drugs.  But spirits respect our free will.  We are even allowed to go against the Light and become darkworkers.  (Obviously, I am not recommending this option.  I’m just saying it’s an option and we are free to choose.)

This Earth is meant to be a creative place where souls incarnate in physical bodies and create in terms of forms.  As I wrote in the second part of this Creating The New World series about Light, we were originally One and Whole, but we wanted to experience love and abundance in a more tangible and experiential way.  So we became individual souls, and incarnated in this physical world.  In order for this Earth experiment to work, free will is absolutely necessary.  Even if that means many failures and heartaches.

You have the free will.  It’s God (or Source or Light) given, and no one can take it away from you, not your parents, not your boss, not your psychic, not even your own spirit guides.  Again, the point is you step up to embrace your power of this free will.

Unfortunately, many of us have forgotten our power and became victims and slaves. . .

Victim mentality

When you are in victim mentality, you see things happen to you, rather than you are creating your life with your own power.  It doesn’t matter if you are in abusive relationship or not.  You may have grown up in a loving family, and you may still feel like a victim of the world or bad luck.

When you live with victim mentality, you are avoiding responsibility that comes with power.  This is only a mental trick, however.  Whether you consciously take the responsibility or not, you get the consequences anyway.  So why not make your own choice and be aware of your responsibility?

Slave mentality

I hate this term as much as I hate the term victim mentality.  Of course I’m not talking about actual slavery.  It’s about becoming an order taker, only going through the motions of life but not fully taking the responsibility of it.  Slaves’ responsibility is about doing the tasks they were told to do, not about making the decisions about the tasks.

Slave mentality is so common it hardly stands out.  Just check the “Ask XXXX” column of any newspaper.  Tons of people asking how they SHOULD live their lives.  As if someone else knows it better.  And the word SHOULD is a telltale sign of slave mentality.  “What should I do?  (I’ll do it if you just give me instructions.)”

Some people bring this slave mentality to their relationship with their spirit guides.  I work with highly spiritually developed people in my Akashic Record Reading practice.  Yet, so many of them ask, “What do my spirit guides want me to do?”

You are the master of your life.  You decide what you want to create, and then you ask advice, say to your spirit guides, in the same way you seek advice from consultants.  They share their ideas, and you decide if you want to take their ideas or not.  You are ultimately responsible.

Curiosity vs fear

Both vicim and slave mentalities are motivated by fear.  Victims are unaware of their true power and are constantly afraid of what may happen to them.  Slaves have (superficially) given away their power and are afraid of going beyond their territory.

(Note: Some people do stupid things to prove they are not afraid.  Whatever the appearance, they are still in the same mode really.  Rioting slaves are still slaves, not truly free.)

One of the sign of these negative mindset is the lack of lively curiosity.  We came to this life to create, and curiosity for new possibilities is a natural part of us.  So ask yourself:  When was the last time you got to know a new person in your life?  The last time you tried out a new hobby?  The last time you read a book or article that was outside of your regular interests?  Are you living with your natural curiosity and exercising the power of your free will?

Misplaced responsibilities

While I’m talking about the issue of responsibility in the context of victim and slave mentality, I want to talk about misplaced responsibility.  This is the flip side of it — you start taking responsibility that is not really yours.

Most common case of misplaced responsibility is when you assume the (negative) emotions of another person and attempt to prevent it from happening.  The truth is each person is responsible for his or her emotions.  Of course, we want to be kind and not say or do harmful things to others.  But there is a line there, and some things need to be said or done even though that may bother someone.  Avoiding these things by taking up someone else’s responsibility for their emotions compromises your own responsibility for yourself.

This is a pretty tough concept to grasp, so let me paraphrase:  It’s good to care for another person but is disempowering for both of you if you take up their responsibility.  Also, we ultimately want to transcend our sense of separated self, but this doesn’t mean we compromise our boundaries and enmesh our sense of self with others.

The New World based on personal power

The New World is based on individuals as empowered free agents.  Not on governments, not on religious organizations, but on individuals.  Each of us will live one’s own Truth rather than blindly following social rules.  Social rules and morals will be unnecessary because our honesty and integrity will develop fully.  We will live in Love and Light, in peace and harmony.

It is a world of diverse ideas, beliefs, and ways of living.  We flourish by celebrating one another’s uniqueness and their power to live their lives.

On the practical level, I think most of us will be working for ourselves.  Entrepreneurship is not a requirement in the New World, but when you start living confidently with the awareness of your own power, you are likely to become an entrepreneur.  I’ve already done it — this blog Yes to Me started to share my learning experiences as a new entrepreneur.  (Whew — some readers may have wondered how entrepreneurship and spirituality are related, but I do have a point here!)  And I know that, if I can, plenty of others can.

How to bring in the New World

How can we better align with Divine Power and create the New World based on it?  Here are some actions plans:

1. Make more mistakes.

You learn how to use your personal power by actually using it, by making decisions by your free will.  When you do this, you will make some mistakes.  It’s part of the learning process, and you can’t make decisions while you are so afraid of potential mistakes.

You can start small at a manageable scale and expand as you gain more confidence.  What kind of mistakes or failures can you swallow today?  How about ordering something different for lunch?  Can you take the disaster of getting something foreign?  How about sharing your thoughts with someone?  Trying a new approach to your existing problem?

2. Own your feelings and responsibilities.

Including the so-called negative feelings like anger and sadness.  A common misunderstanding about lightworkers is that lightworkers don’t have “bad” feelings and if you feel such feelings, there is something wrong about you.  Well, eventually we want to get to the point where we see the deeper meanings of such unsettling feelings, but for now, let me assure you it is natural to feel all kinds of feelings.

What we don’t want to do is avoid the responsibility to feel emotions.  Emotions are . . . just emotions.  No need to hide it, suppress it, push it to another, etc. Take the responsibility to feel it, and it will pass.

By the way, does someone around you say, “You shouldn’t be angry / sad / lonely, etc.”?  Be very careful.  It could be that this person is just insecure with their own feelings, but this is also a common way of manipulation.

3. Be vulnerable.

Embracing power doesn’t mean putting up a strong facade that you are fearless. When you dare to feel all range of emotions and own them, you feel vulnerable.  This is good.  The courage to be vulnerable comes from the trust that you will be taken care of by the Universe.

4. Dream your own dream.

What do you really want to do?  It will take some unlearning time to let go of socio-cultural expectations.  When you put aside all the “I should be doing this . . .”, what do you want for yourself?  Only you can dream your own dream.

Refrain from editing your dreams.  Dare to dream and then think of ways to bring your life to your dream.

5. Know the difference between stepping up to your power and stepping on other people.

Love and power can go hand in hand.  It’s important they go hand in hand.

Divine Power comes with Light, so the action plan for Light, along with spiritual practices such as meditation, also works well for Power.

Do you have questions about our Divine Power of free will?  Please share in the comments.  (Photo by carf)

Honesty And Freedom

Honesty is one of the most admired qualities.  Most people say they want their life partners, children, friends, and if possible everyone to be honest.  Yet we also know it’s so damn hard to be honest.  

Why does honesty elude us like this?  How can we retain our honesty and integrity? 

Freedom as prereq of honesty

I don’t believe we are destined to be dishonest.  It’s far easier to be honest and say things as they are, rather than twisting the facts and then remembering how we twisted them so that our stories are consistent, often leading us to tell even more lies.  Dishonesty doesn’t feel good and undermines our sense of dignity.  

Yet we lie because most of us don’t realize we have the prerequisite of honesty: freedom.  Complete freedom to say what it is.  Freedom not to worry about the consequences of our honest expression.  

Say you find your employer is compromising the law.  Can you stand up and say honesty that you don’t agree with the practice?  You know you will lose your job if you do so.  Can you still be honest?  Remember Arthur Anderson?  Many otherwise good people compromised their honesty because they were afraid of their job security (and ended up losing their jobs anyway).

Or say you find your friend eating so unhealthy, she is overweight and risking health issues, can you simply express your concern, without any manipulation nor sugarcoating the facts?  Why not?  Because you are afraid of offending her feeling and losing her friendship?  Are you and your friend in friendship voluntarily or do you need her as friend?  

Freedom and autonomy

To feel free, most people need autonomy.  Financial, emotional, and mental autonomy.  

It’s extremely hard to be honest to your employer when your (and your family’s) livelihood is dependent on it.  I don’t object the system of employment at this time, but to usher in the New World based on Truth, it’s a good idea to cultivate our inner entrepreneur.  (Whew, this blog Yes to Me started as entrepreneurship blog, and although it may appear I meandered around into spirituality, I actually have consistency at the base!) Financial autonomy promotes honesty.  

Emotional autonomy means you own your feelings.  No one makes you happy or unhappy.  With or without friends, you are you.  Without this emotional autonomy, relationships of any kind become more about codependency rather than free association.  

Mental autonomy is the ability to think for yourself.  It involves questioning widely accepted social norms and opinions of “authorities”.  

To be completely clear, I’d like to note that autonomy is only a desired ground for freedom, not a necessity.  Because everyone is free on the spiritual level (more on this toward the end of this article) and no one is completely autonomous.  We are interdependent in this world and that is wonderful.  You can be honest while relying on a single source of income, while being emotionally supported by others, and while you are learning and building your own thoughts.  

Still autonomy is very helpful.  Without autonomy (in the conventional sense), we are like slaves.  For a slave to speak up honestly, it takes a degree of “dumbness”, to be ready to die or go on the street anytime as a consequence of his honesty.  And I put “  “ around dumbness because I think this kind of dumbness is good.  It may be based on spiritual belief that we are always supported by God regardless how things may look like.  

Teaching honesty to your children

Most parents want their children to be honest, yet they are unaware of the inherent dilemma they themselves need to resolve to let their children be honest.  Because children ARE dependent on parents.  Children don’t have autonomy, especially financial and emotional autonomy.  They are even dependent physically. 

So how can you let your child know they are free to express their thoughts and feelings honestly?  That they are loved no matter what?  And do you really mean it?  

As long as the parent’s mindset is like, “I want you to be honest, my child, but if you tell me you are the one who broke my favorite vase, I will be upset and won’t talk to you for the rest of the day.” (manipulation and lack of emotional autonomy), they are setting up their child to be dishonest, not honest.   And mandatory honesty is not true honesty.  

I know this is difficult.  Parents are humans, too, still in their development stage, with all kinds of shortcomings.  I just thought being aware of this dilemma may be helpful.  

Further, I think the key in this dilemma is to realize that your child is not your possession at all.  Your child came from the spiritual world to play the role of your child, just as you came to this world to play a certain role.  You are only serving them in their growth in this world.  (Some people call this, “Children are from God.”)  

Honesty to oneself before honesty to others

Honesty starts within.  Before we express ourselves honestly, we need to be aware of what we are thinking and feeling.  Really.  So often, we don’t examine our honest thoughts and feelings and prematurely adopt socially accepted ideas.  

For instance, many people have problem facing their desires, whether the desire is about luxury cars, sex, or the desire to quit the current cushy job to do something they really like to do.  If you resonate with this statement, you are actually better off than most.  People who have serious problem being honest to themselves are in denial.  They may get upset at people who honestly admits such desires and actively accuse them.  

Monogamy and honesty

It would be dishonest by omission if I skip the issue of fidelity in this article about honesty.  So here is my personal opinion. 

I quit subscribing to the idea of monogamy recently because I see inherent issue of honesty in it.  In monogamous relationship, each partner expects the other to be faithful.  This set expectation — lack of freedom — is ground for dishonesty.  If I meet another attractive man while in monogamous relationship, my choices are:

1. I lie to myself and decide I felt nothing to keep my self image of a “good” faithful person. 
2. I be honest with myself but choose to take no action, to stay faithful to my partner.
3.  I be honest with myself but lie to my partner to keep his dream of fidelity, leading myself to cheat. 
4. I be honest with myself and to my partner, leading to potential breakup.  

I may have no problem choosing #2, but I’m not sure if expecting my partner to always choose #2 is a healthy reasonable expectation. 
And I value honesty more than security and steadiness of relationship.  I’d rather have an honest lover than dishonest / confused one who makes love only to me.    

If I feel insecure when I hear him talk about other women (or men, for that matter), that is my issue, not his, not ours.  I own my feelings.  Same with differences in values and opinions.  He may have different opinions than mine, and that is fine with me.  I know that doesn’t undermine the worth of my opinion.  

I don’t want to lock up someone — anyone.  I don’t think I can justify doing so in the name of love.  And I don’t like to be locked up, either.

Does this mean I’m against monogamous relationship?  No.  If two individuals are happy together, that is wonderful — let’s celebrate!  It’s when such condition is enforced, either by manipulation or by social brain washing, that I have a  with.  (A common way of social brain washing is the promotion of soulmate.) 

Can you let your partner be who he or she is?  Can you let them express themselves freely?  Can you honestly say what is on your mind?    

You are free

In conclusion, I’d like you to realize you are already free.  Whether you have achieved financial, emotional, and mental autonomy or not, and whether you feel free or not, you are free.  It is yet another layer of illusion to believe you are not.  

Free will is the primary right and responsibility in this universe.  You can even choose not to feel free, to believe you are enslaved, and you are still accepted as you are.  Free will is such an essential part of life that God even allows us to go against the Light, to become darkworkers.   

I hope this deep sense of acceptance and freedom helps you build your life based on honesty and truth.  (Photo by victor nuno)