What Do You Create If You Are Totally Free?

Hi, I know I haven’t been posting for a while, which is quite unusual. As you can see in the Archive, I’ve been posting at least once a week for more than two years.

I have been in a strange place — not physically, but energetically. It was like caught in an air pocket. Nothing was holding me down really. I was completely free to go anywhere. Yet I had no idea where to go or what to do. Life felt like unreal, as if watching a movie.

Have you had this experience? I think more and more people are getting caught in this strange air pocket as the Ascension progresses.

Before, we created out of need

Life is about creation. We incarnate in this physical world to create freely and joyously so that we may experience love and abundance in a tangible way. We create relationships, home, work, arts — even new lives.

The thing is that, so far, we usually created out of need or habit. We felt insecure by ourselves so we created relationships. The world felt harsh and even dangerous so we created safe and comfortable homes. We had to make our living so we created businesses and jobs.

Something is changing for some people. We are getting into a place where we don’t have particular needs.

I don’t mean I have tons of saving that I don’t need to work. But I know money comes along when I need it. Likewise, I am single, but I feel safe and secure by myself. In short, I am already content.

So what do you do when you don’t have needs?

We can still create. In fact, this is the best place to create from. It’s so much easier to start a new project when we don’t have to worry so much about money and other restrictions. And we know we have the best relationships and friendships when we are happy with ourselves.

But it does feel — strange. It’s new. There is no “drive”. It’s so easy to get lazy and sit where I am. In other words, I was getting a serious question from the Universe, “Okay, so what do you do when you don’t HAVE TO do anything? What do you CHOOSE to create? You are completely free to choose, you know.”

Have you asked these questions to yourself before? Try it. You may find a new aspect of yourself.

So here is my new creation. . .

After some lazy and at the same time tormenting time (the latter is totally self-inflicted), I decided to start a new blog. Well, actually two. I am starting a bilingual blog, one in English and one is Japanese, both about Akashic Records and related topics such as Spirit Guides, reincarnation, chakras, and more.

I am not quitting this blog Real Life Spirituality. This is where I discuss spirituality in the bigger context, such as spirituality in business and entrepreneurship, spiritual healing, and how I am doing personally in my spiritual and personal growth. I may be posting less often, but I promise I will post, so please don’t unsubscribe!

The blog at Akashic Record Reading, on the other hand, will be focused on Akashic Records. There may be some over-wrap with what I have written here, but plenty of new contents are coming, too.

For me, this is a fun experiment. I will be posting basically the same content in English and Japanese. Will the comments be different? I guess so. Depending on readers’ feedback, the introduction of each post will have to be different between the English and Japanese blogs. How will each grow up to be?

If you read Japanese or know someone who does, here is the link for the Japanese blog. (And while you are at it, please click on the button at the end of the post that has the red R. It helps to spread the news of this new blog. Thank you.)

This is also my attempt to nurture my root more. I’ve been in the US since 1995, and although English is my second language, it is my primary language now. I haven’t been writing nor reading Japanese for a long time. Will my brain produce something more interesting if I stimulate it with my first language?

We still have a long way to go in Ascension

We are so used to the “creation out of need” mode. It’s a lot easier — well, at least it feels easier — to create when we have needs. This is why people with particular needs, such as needs to care for small children or sick family members, become surprisingly strong.

That’s fine, but we do want to learn to motivate ourselves. To create just because.

Welcome to the world of no polarities. (Photo credit)

The Law Of Attraction And Surrender

Whether you are doing it consciously or not, you are creating your life and the world. The principle of this creation is called the Law of Attraction. There are other spiritual laws about creation, but I’m simplifying things here. The important thing to remember is the true nature of “reality”, that reality is something we can mold.

Now the ultimate question to this premise is “Why, then, don’t we get what we want? Why is it so damn hard to have what we desire, like making enough money from my hobby so I can quit my job or finding my life partner?”

There are two things to consider here. One is the misuse of the Law of Attraction. The other, main point of this article, is surrendering to the bigger purpose of life.

Misuse of the Law of Attraction

Common misuse of the Law of Attraction includes:

1. Focusing on NOT having what you want instead of acknowledging the good things you already have and desiring to go further to have it.

Let’s say you are single and want to find a mate for intimacy and personal sharing. Someone you feel attracted and want to spend a lot of time together. Now, do you feel good about yourself — do you find yourself lovable and trustworthy? Are you grateful for the life you have now, for your friends, your past romantic partners for making you the person you are now? Or are you feeling lonely and miserable, needing to find that special person? If it’s the latter, you probably attract more of not having a mate. Or you attract someone that matches the loneliness and misery you harbor.

2. Not being clear and consistent about what you want. Many people seem to know exactly what they DON’T want, but not clear about what they want.

Do you find yourself desiring a life partner one day and then, on other days, saying something like “Oh, I’m just too busy to have a relationship right now. I want a raise…” This is like changing your order at a restaurant. Please be clear and consistent about what you want — this involves sincere exploration of your true desires.

Surrendering

Then there comes a point of surrender. This is different from giving up your desire because you see yourself as a powerless victim of life. This is about surrendering to the bigger purpose of your life that your conscious mind may not readily perceive.

Let me continue the example of finding a life partner. After my divorce, I decided to spend a year to recover my sense of well-being and to rebuild my life. Eventually, I felt ready for a new relationship. I actively sought out a new partner. I joined match.com. I asked my friends if they knew someone single. I did meet many men. But none led to long term relationship.

Was I doing something wrong? Back then, that is what I thought. Although I couldn’t put a finger what I was doing wrong.

I was quite happy with my life. I don’t say this in a way like, “I have a good-paying job, I have great friends, I’m fine. Nothing is wrong with me.” kind of way. Yes, I just wrote this line in a tongue in cheek kind of way because I saw so many online profiles like that. The truth was, yes, I was happy with my life, my job, my social life, but I wanted a romantic relationship and I couldn’t find it.

So, I wasn’t focusing on the negative NOT having part of my desire. And I was fairly consistent in my focus. Even though I didn’t know the term “the Law of Attraction” back then, I was taking the right approach.

Not getting what you want and be happy with it

Then I decided to quit my corporate job and relocate across America to Oregon. Gee, I couldn’t have done this if I had a boyfriend in Tennessee. I’m really accommodating when I’m in a relationship, and I most likely would have given up — or wouldn’t even have entertained — such idea if I were in a serious relationship.

I didn’t get what I sincerely desired — a life partner, an intimate relationship. Looking back, am I upset about this? No. On the contrary, I’m grateful. I couldn’t see far enough into the future when I was busy meeting men, but now I think this is exactly how I am meant to be living now. I can spend my time doing what I am meant to do — doing the Akashic Record Reading service and writing about spirituality — without the constraint of monogamous relationship.

This is what I mean by surrendering. You may not get what you desire, and it may be just as well. You will see how so much better it is not to have your wish come true — if you open up and accept the gifts of not having it, if you surrender.

Revelation

Recently I had a mini revelation. The memory of my first boyfriend popped in my mind suddenly. Well, I didn’t have sex with him, but I consider him to be my first boyfriend. We were seventeen years old. It ended prematurely because I was an exchange student in Australia and had to come back to Japan at the end of the year. I used to wonder what my life may have been like if I could stay and could keep seeing him.

In a flash, I saw myself with him together. Living together in a house. With kids. Doing the everyday things — get up, breakfast, get the kids ready for school, rush, work, etc. etc. The life I could have had with him. And OMG. I was tired of the repetition within a second!

I always knew I was not meant for motherhood — I find children adorable, but I was never big on becoming a mother myself. The biological clock that so many women talk about — I just never felt it. This — not particularly craving motherhood — was fine with me. But as I’ve been saying, romantic relationship was a different deal. I thought I really wanted it. Living with the guy I really like (and he likes me too), sharing all aspects of our lives. I thought I wouldn’t even mind taking care of kids if that’s what it takes for the relationship.

But no. When I saw that psychic vision, I realized I’m not meant for the regular marriage.  Even if it’s a good one.  I am meant for something else. For what? Well, look, I already have it. I can freely pursue my interests, build my life and my business. I connect with my clients with love. And being free from the conventional lifestyle keeps my thinking free and my body ageless.

Somehow I surrendered to the bigger purpose of my life. My ego mind could not see it for so many years, but my Higher Self knew what was best for me.  This is how creation works sometimes.

(And now, from this liberated place, I can date ^_^ I see my new date from time to time while keeping my life my way.  It works.)

Are you ready to surrender?

Or are you attached to a certain outcome? In other words, do you simply desire something or do you NEED it to happen?

I suggest you take a big breath and look at the things you so want but haven’t got in your life. Is it possible not having it is actually better? Can you see the big picture? (Photo by photomason)

Creating The New World, Part 5 Power

This is the fifth part of the Creating The New World series.  In this series, we have been exploring the ways to create the New World based on the five divine energy flows of Love, Light, Truth, Abundance, and Power.  It has grown to a huge writing, so after this post, I will write another one to sum up and to present a big picture of the New World.

Embracing our Divine Power

Divine Power is by far the hardest concept in the five energies to understand accurately and therefore hard to embrace.  We have seen too many authoritative figures who abuse their worldly power for their own greed.  You probably have been disgusted by them and swore not to be like them.  But wait . . . that doesn’t mean you need to relinquish your inner power!

The power I’m talking about is our innate power to create.  It’s the power of our free will.  We are free to make our choices, and as we make choices, we create our lives.  Together we create this world.

We all have this power.  Even if you are penniless, living with abusive family, or in poor health, you do.  The issue is you may not be using this power.

Free will is the best gift from God

One of the frequently asked questions in my Akashic Record Reading is “Why didn’t my spirit guides (or God or Angel) prevent me from getting into this trouble?  Why don’t they just hold my hand and guide me through the best path?  Isn’t it cruel and unkind to leave me where I am?”

The answer is: They don’t leave you.  They are always with you.  But they love you so much that they respect your free will.  You are free to make mistakes and learn from them.  Whatever horrible mistake you make, they don’t abandon you, and if you end up dead, you are still loved and you will get another go.

Spirits do have different mode of operation.  In our human common sense, there are times we might want to intervene.  For example, if your child is getting involved with criminals and playing with drugs.  But spirits respect our free will.  We are even allowed to go against the Light and become darkworkers.  (Obviously, I am not recommending this option.  I’m just saying it’s an option and we are free to choose.)

This Earth is meant to be a creative place where souls incarnate in physical bodies and create in terms of forms.  As I wrote in the second part of this Creating The New World series about Light, we were originally One and Whole, but we wanted to experience love and abundance in a more tangible and experiential way.  So we became individual souls, and incarnated in this physical world.  In order for this Earth experiment to work, free will is absolutely necessary.  Even if that means many failures and heartaches.

You have the free will.  It’s God (or Source or Light) given, and no one can take it away from you, not your parents, not your boss, not your psychic, not even your own spirit guides.  Again, the point is you step up to embrace your power of this free will.

Unfortunately, many of us have forgotten our power and became victims and slaves. . .

Victim mentality

When you are in victim mentality, you see things happen to you, rather than you are creating your life with your own power.  It doesn’t matter if you are in abusive relationship or not.  You may have grown up in a loving family, and you may still feel like a victim of the world or bad luck.

When you live with victim mentality, you are avoiding responsibility that comes with power.  This is only a mental trick, however.  Whether you consciously take the responsibility or not, you get the consequences anyway.  So why not make your own choice and be aware of your responsibility?

Slave mentality

I hate this term as much as I hate the term victim mentality.  Of course I’m not talking about actual slavery.  It’s about becoming an order taker, only going through the motions of life but not fully taking the responsibility of it.  Slaves’ responsibility is about doing the tasks they were told to do, not about making the decisions about the tasks.

Slave mentality is so common it hardly stands out.  Just check the “Ask XXXX” column of any newspaper.  Tons of people asking how they SHOULD live their lives.  As if someone else knows it better.  And the word SHOULD is a telltale sign of slave mentality.  “What should I do?  (I’ll do it if you just give me instructions.)”

Some people bring this slave mentality to their relationship with their spirit guides.  I work with highly spiritually developed people in my Akashic Record Reading practice.  Yet, so many of them ask, “What do my spirit guides want me to do?”

You are the master of your life.  You decide what you want to create, and then you ask advice, say to your spirit guides, in the same way you seek advice from consultants.  They share their ideas, and you decide if you want to take their ideas or not.  You are ultimately responsible.

Curiosity vs fear

Both vicim and slave mentalities are motivated by fear.  Victims are unaware of their true power and are constantly afraid of what may happen to them.  Slaves have (superficially) given away their power and are afraid of going beyond their territory.

(Note: Some people do stupid things to prove they are not afraid.  Whatever the appearance, they are still in the same mode really.  Rioting slaves are still slaves, not truly free.)

One of the sign of these negative mindset is the lack of lively curiosity.  We came to this life to create, and curiosity for new possibilities is a natural part of us.  So ask yourself:  When was the last time you got to know a new person in your life?  The last time you tried out a new hobby?  The last time you read a book or article that was outside of your regular interests?  Are you living with your natural curiosity and exercising the power of your free will?

Misplaced responsibilities

While I’m talking about the issue of responsibility in the context of victim and slave mentality, I want to talk about misplaced responsibility.  This is the flip side of it — you start taking responsibility that is not really yours.

Most common case of misplaced responsibility is when you assume the (negative) emotions of another person and attempt to prevent it from happening.  The truth is each person is responsible for his or her emotions.  Of course, we want to be kind and not say or do harmful things to others.  But there is a line there, and some things need to be said or done even though that may bother someone.  Avoiding these things by taking up someone else’s responsibility for their emotions compromises your own responsibility for yourself.

This is a pretty tough concept to grasp, so let me paraphrase:  It’s good to care for another person but is disempowering for both of you if you take up their responsibility.  Also, we ultimately want to transcend our sense of separated self, but this doesn’t mean we compromise our boundaries and enmesh our sense of self with others.

The New World based on personal power

The New World is based on individuals as empowered free agents.  Not on governments, not on religious organizations, but on individuals.  Each of us will live one’s own Truth rather than blindly following social rules.  Social rules and morals will be unnecessary because our honesty and integrity will develop fully.  We will live in Love and Light, in peace and harmony.

It is a world of diverse ideas, beliefs, and ways of living.  We flourish by celebrating one another’s uniqueness and their power to live their lives.

On the practical level, I think most of us will be working for ourselves.  Entrepreneurship is not a requirement in the New World, but when you start living confidently with the awareness of your own power, you are likely to become an entrepreneur.  I’ve already done it — this blog Yes to Me started to share my learning experiences as a new entrepreneur.  (Whew — some readers may have wondered how entrepreneurship and spirituality are related, but I do have a point here!)  And I know that, if I can, plenty of others can.

How to bring in the New World

How can we better align with Divine Power and create the New World based on it?  Here are some actions plans:

1. Make more mistakes.

You learn how to use your personal power by actually using it, by making decisions by your free will.  When you do this, you will make some mistakes.  It’s part of the learning process, and you can’t make decisions while you are so afraid of potential mistakes.

You can start small at a manageable scale and expand as you gain more confidence.  What kind of mistakes or failures can you swallow today?  How about ordering something different for lunch?  Can you take the disaster of getting something foreign?  How about sharing your thoughts with someone?  Trying a new approach to your existing problem?

2. Own your feelings and responsibilities.

Including the so-called negative feelings like anger and sadness.  A common misunderstanding about lightworkers is that lightworkers don’t have “bad” feelings and if you feel such feelings, there is something wrong about you.  Well, eventually we want to get to the point where we see the deeper meanings of such unsettling feelings, but for now, let me assure you it is natural to feel all kinds of feelings.

What we don’t want to do is avoid the responsibility to feel emotions.  Emotions are . . . just emotions.  No need to hide it, suppress it, push it to another, etc. Take the responsibility to feel it, and it will pass.

By the way, does someone around you say, “You shouldn’t be angry / sad / lonely, etc.”?  Be very careful.  It could be that this person is just insecure with their own feelings, but this is also a common way of manipulation.

3. Be vulnerable.

Embracing power doesn’t mean putting up a strong facade that you are fearless. When you dare to feel all range of emotions and own them, you feel vulnerable.  This is good.  The courage to be vulnerable comes from the trust that you will be taken care of by the Universe.

4. Dream your own dream.

What do you really want to do?  It will take some unlearning time to let go of socio-cultural expectations.  When you put aside all the “I should be doing this . . .”, what do you want for yourself?  Only you can dream your own dream.

Refrain from editing your dreams.  Dare to dream and then think of ways to bring your life to your dream.

5. Know the difference between stepping up to your power and stepping on other people.

Love and power can go hand in hand.  It’s important they go hand in hand.

Divine Power comes with Light, so the action plan for Light, along with spiritual practices such as meditation, also works well for Power.

Do you have questions about our Divine Power of free will?  Please share in the comments.  (Photo by carf)

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