How To Find Your Life Purpose Through Your Life Challenges
February 24, 2009 by Akemi Gaines
Learning the life lessons through experiences in the physical world has been the big part of our souls’ purpose for millenniums of years. While some souls are graduating from this learning process recently, I know there are many souls who are still working on this level, and I want to help. (Photo by FreeWine)
How our souls choose to learn our life lessons
When a soul is ready to incarnate, it determines a set of life lessons, and then choose the appropriate birth setting for the best learning opportunities. Let’s say the soul wants to learn Abundance. Now which of the following two settings do you think would provide the best learning opportunities?
- To be born to a wealthy family and just accept the abundance there
- To be born to a poor family and build his or her abundance, from rugs to riches
Yes, #2 is more challenging but rewarding. So the courageous soul takes up the challenge.
The trouble is that we forget it when we come to this side of the world. So now you don’t understand why you were born to poverty while plenty of others are born to reasonably wealthy families. As you work your way working full time and taking evening classes, and every time you see other kids buying nice stuffs while you worry about paying the rent this month, you wonder, “Why? Why is life so hard on me?”
The truth is you are right on track.
Let me give you another example of learning Love or Compassion. For the same reason with Abundance, the soul may prefer to be born to a loveless family so they know firsthand what it is like not to have Love and Compassion. So that they can grow up to be the Love to the world.
I don’t think we ever choose to learn something negative like Poverty. We are evolving toward Light.
The pitfall of this “learning by contrast” process
Quite obviously, there is a problem about this learning by contrast process. Because we are so shortsighted in this physical world and because we don’t clearly remember the life lessons we ourselves chose prior to birth, we may grow bitter and give up the learning altogether.
This is very sad. Learning the life lessons is one of the purpose of life. (Life is also about just experiencing this beautiful physical world and expressing our wonderful energy.) There is no point in sulking and wasting our time.
The awareness of one’s own life lessons is probably one of the best gift of my Akashic Record Reading. But you can also find your own life lessons through your life challenges.
5 steps to find your life lesson(s)
You need: a few pieces of paper and a few colored pens, a box of tissues, and some quiet time for yourself.
- On a piece of paper, write down the major challenges in your life. List as many as you want. Some examples may include (but by no ways limited to):
- Were you born to an abusive parent?
- Did your parent die when you were young?
- Were you born with physical limitations?
- Were you born to an average middle class family but somehow had trouble connecting to others?
- Did you repeatedly have trouble with authoritative figures?
- Did you become a parent at very early age?
- Did you want children but somehow could not have one?
- Have you been in abusive relationships?
- Have you been unhappy with your career?
- When you are done with step 1, review your list. Now go deeper. For each challenges, find the quality you have been seeking in each negative situation and write it down in a different color. Connect to your own feeling rather than just jotting down typical answers. This is about YOU. And try to come up with one or up to three words for each challenge.For example, if you were born to an abusive family, did you want Love? Acceptance? Or maybe it prompted you to seek Autonomy? Did it lead you to Compassion with people, animals, to nature? Or maybe in your special case, it helped you to develop a sense of humor with Lightheartedness?
- Now review again. Does a few word appear repeatedly? Do you see a certain “quality”, a theme that runs through all or most of your challenges? On a second sheet of paper, write down what you think is the main theme, or the life lessons you have been working on.
- Examine the first list of your challenges with this new awareness of your life theme, or life lessons. Do you see how each “negative” situations contribute to the learning of your life lessons? Take your time. This is a critical step that can change the way you see your whole life.
- If you notice a new theme or life lessons emerge from your worksheet, write it down on the second sheet of paper. Repeat step 4 and 5 until you get the “Aha! This is it. This is what my life is about!”
Pay attention to your emotional cues
The bigger the emotional hang-ups are, the more likely it is tied to your life lesson. Is there someone in your life that you feel you can’t forgive? Forgiveness or the quality that person lacked so much may be one of your life lessons. Is there something you accused “God” for? Trust or Openness may be your life lesson as well as the quality that improves that something.
180 degree change in how you see life
When you take the time – and more importantly, the courage – to do this exercise to find your life lessons, something magical happens. Things that bothered you so much stop having the emotional grip on you. You stop going down the roller coaster that is so familiar to you.
Because now you see what you thought to be a horrible drawback in your life is not that at all. They were learning opportunities! And you see it so clearly, not like someone telling you “Well, what did you learn from it?” (Don’t we hate that question.)
People may keep saying unkind words. They may point out you are disabled or been to jail or single or whatever. That may annoy you but heck, you know the truth. (Annoying is annoying. A mosquito is annoying. They don’t send you off the emotional shoot.) You know those people are only talking about their own fear.
Learning the life lessons through positive learning experiences
Further, with the awareness of what your life lessons are, you can attract more positive learning experiences. You don’t have to go through poverty to realize abundance. If that is the case, you have to go bankrupt every few years to learn the life lesson of Abundance. No. You can learn abundance in a more expansive way. In this example, how about expanding abundance beyond the monetary sense? How about doing charity?
By becoming fully aware of your life lessons, you attract more positive learning experiences, which speeds up your learning process. As a group, we humans are finishing up this “learning by contrast” process and becoming more about being. So do work on your lessons and graduate the school of life!