Ideal Death And More On Life And Death
December 8, 2008 by Akemi
So many people are indeed afraid of death, I guess. I lost 20 subscribers when I published part 1 of this Life & Death series last week. Well. Sorry for those who are so scared even to read about death, but we cool people go ahead and think more about death. Not that we like morbid topics. But because facing our mortality and freeing ourselves from the fear of death is the critical step to living a truly fulfilling life.
I get to see various death scenes in the Akashic Records. Are some ways of death more preferable than others? What would be the ideal way to die? Although we don’t get to choose how we die, this is an interesting topic to ponder.
Do we get to know when our time is up?
I guess that is possible. Wild animals seem to be able to do so. So if someone is at peace with the idea of their upcoming death, they might get to know. They may not tell their loved ones, however, because they don’t want to surprise them.
I still remember a story I read years ago. It was about the writer’s friend’s father-in-law. He was in his mid eighties and had been living with his son’s family since his wife passed away. The essay described him to be in good health – he could take care of himself in the day to day life. When he wanted to go to town, however, someone accompanied him just in case.
One day, he wanted to have haircut. So his daughter-in-law went out with him. After that, he suggested they’d get some coffee and sweets. They went to one of those nice bakeries where fresh house-made cakes and tarts are served. He thanked her saying, “You are not my birth family, yet you’ve been taking care of me the most.” She thought it was so nice of him to say that, but didn’t think much about it.
When they were checking out, she saw him buying more than a dozen cakes to take home. She asked, “There are only three of us at home. Who is going to eat all these cakes?” (With fresh cream, etc, they only last for a day or so.) He just smiled. She thought it was strange, but she let him do what pleased him. He went to bed early that evening.
Next morning, the family found he passed away during the night.
So they called the relatives, who came in immediately, and – they found themselves eating those cakes!
“This is so strange. It’s as if he knew and wanted to look nice to see his wife again.” “He was like that always – very considerate to everyone around him.” “It’s good he passed away at his home. These days, most people die at hospitals, and it’s kind of impersonal.” The conversation continued in his memory, who passed so peacefully.
Preparing for death
That’s one of the most beautiful story of death I know. I wish I could pass like that. I guess the ideal way to die is to die in old age when the physical body weakens and naturally lets the soul go. That would be least painful, and you get to have some time mentally and emotionally preparing for the upcoming death. It would be easier for the family to accept, too.
The second best would be to die due to some kind of disease – this would come with a bit of pain (hopefully not too much) but you still get some time to prepare for the death. I mean, if you can accept it is coming.
Really sad cases of death
I don’t want to say some deaths are “bad” — in the long, long run, we all end up in the same place (I think – that is my current understanding). However, certain death are indeed more traumatic and damaging. Like death by violence (murder, war, persecution, accidents). These involve so much physical and emotional pains, and usually don’t give enough time to be prepared. When I do reading for souls who went through these deaths, it’s really sad. Sometimes, the pain and the damage carry over many following lifetimes.
By the way, I’m not “afraid” of death, but I don’t particularly like seeing dead bodies. Please don’t send me gross pictures just because I challenged you in the beginning of this article. That is un-cool.
How about death to young children? The way I see it is it really depends. Just because someone is physically young doesn’t mean they are immature spiritually. They may actually know what is happening and in peace, more so than the adults around. I’m compassionate when it happens to the young (as well to the older), but I also think age is quite relative. Of course, there are children with young spirit and don’t really understand nor accept their death.
Suicide and the soul
I’m still studying how suicide may affect the life of a soul. Some says it is definitely no good, others like Michael Newton (authority in past life regression therapy and the author of Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life Between Lives
I personally haven’t seen souls who have caused major issues due to their suicide in past lives – I don’t know if this means souls who have committed suicide don’t come to spiritual healing like mine or if they have problem with reincarnation. So this is part 2 of my Life and Death series. I found the comments to part 1 very interesting and illuminating. What do you think about death, and life after death? Do you believe in reincarnation? Let me know by writing your comment! (Photo by aeioux)
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Hi, Akemi. I’m with you: it’s not a scary topic for me. In fact, I think of death as if I’d be going Home. I’m so curious about that place I call Home, wondering if it’s as I’ve seen in my own dreams or read about as so many various others have described… It’s just so intriguing…
That’s not to say that being on the “one left behind” end isn’t brutally painful…it certainly is! …because of the loss we feel; such immense grief. But focusing on what release and heaven the other has just passed into brings some solid footing on which to regain our balance and go on with the joy of living here. I’ve witnessed a couple of true masters at this, the ability to focus so much on the others’ new life that their own is less disrupted. Amazing.
I believe in reincarnation, too. Although I believe in karmic balancing (which I also think can happen “now” rather than waiting for another lifetime), I also believe we come back to experience something new or to affect something here; that there’s something we agree to do.
Akemi, it’s wonderful that you’ve had a chance to read Journey of Souls, and I very much look forward to reading your review. It’s a seminal and brilliant book, best read by those who care about what happens after they die. As for the loss of 20 subscribers, perhaps it’s just a matter of general interest; you’re shifting your focus to more spiritually oriented topics, which I’m sure is very much appreciated by the seekers among us. You have such a delightful way of expressing yourself.
For my part, and given the scope of my knowledge about death in relation to life, death is a phase transition, where you can (1) enjoy the opportunity to review a lifetime of events that contributed (or didn’t contribute, as the case may be) to the evolution of your Self / Soul / Spirit; and (2) enjoy and appreciate (by contrast) the pleasures and desires of an incorporeal existence on The Other Side. At present, we have few if any memories of this process, but as we evolve, this will likely change. In fact, with the work of Weiss and Newton, it already is changing.
How would I like to die? At peace, in love, with joy, through bliss …
Christopher
Hi Akemi. I do believe in reincarnation and life after death. Sometimes I wonder if it’s wishful thinking on my part but still, I can’t imagine all of THIS for nothing! And if we have souls, where did they come from then? I mean, we all know how the physical body is developed and born, but if there was no life after death or soul self to begin with, where did the current one come from? How did it grow? And from what?
Hi Arkemi,
Just found your blog, and like it very much already! Sorry to hear you lost subscribers due to people’s dislike of discussing death. It is so important though to think about it. Only when we know how to die do we know how to live. Have you read the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying? I was profoundly touched by the total acceptance of death and how much the Tibetan buddhists know about dying. I reviewed the book on my blog.
Keep up the great work!
Daphne
Hi Julie,
Thank you for your sincere sharing. Separation is painful — while we are essentially spiritual beings, we have the physical bonds for a reason, I think. And I wonder about the middle life (what some call heaven), too. I sort of gather info from there, but I don’t get to directly see it when I do readings. That is my main interest in past life therapy at this time.
Christopher,
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, the focus of this blog is shifting, which is a good thing, but I understand there may be some loss involved. (Hey! I will be writing entrepreneur posts, too! ) And I think you are right — we are evolving so fast that some would remember “it” .
Davina,
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I think souls come from the source energy. So we can say souls are the energy. The interesting thing is, it’s not like the source just becomes multiple souls. There is a more organized process, I believe, which contribute to our individual uniqueness. (Like, I know where you came from
Daphne,
Welcome to Yes to Me! And thank you for your kind words. That book is certainly on my to read list. I’ll go over to read your review.
Aloha Akemi, It is always an adventure to return to your space to read what you’re exploring next. Death has been a scary thing for me. I believe in reincarnation and after our Akashi Record Reading I understand so much more, and then, there are more questions. Now as I write I feel the difference between ‘being scared’ and ’scary’. In recent years I have ‘been scared’ by the realities of life on this planet. Perhaps a life of fear on this planet blocks the path to being at peace with life and at peace with passing on to another level of being. ‘Scary’ means something subtly different … scary is like unknown territory that is subject to lots of other peoples’ energy/beliefs…If I am unsure and waivering in my acceptance of ME that could be ’scary’. Death and rebirth happen over and over again, if you live on this planet LONG ENOUGH, you die many times.
Since I am no longer able to touch ink and paper, I will not read the book noted in the previous posts … I will read your review though. Much aloha, Mokihana
Hi Mokihana,
Good to see you here, and I really enjoy your new blog.
Death, the transformation process, remains to be somewhat mysterious, and even when we know it is nothing to be scared about, I think there is a sense of a bit of tension. Davina called it something like stage fright in her comment. That is very descriptive, I think.
I’m glad my Akashic Record Reading helped you. It gives us higher perspective, doesn’t it?
Hi Akemi
Very interesting posts. I am reading Tibetan Book of Living and Dying these days and the book explains how in order to have a peaceful death, one must learn to have a peaceful life, and says that ‘although how or where we will be reborn is generally dependent on karmic forces, our state of mind at the time of death can influence the quality of our next rebirth’
- which I had always heard from my folks so when the doctors told us our dad was dying, our mother asked us to bring peaceful and soothing prayer songs to play in his room. I heard many people saying that he died a peaceful death and I sort of understand that but all that was at a physical level, what we were able to ’see’ to be peaceful as he was on ventilator the last few days of his life.
Reading this book has made me wonder though if we create hurdles by trying to keep them alive using all kinds of machines in the hospitals when a person is trying to make the transition. The night before my dad was put on ventilator, I stayed with him and he was put on something called ‘bipap’ to help him breath. I shiver when I think of the torture that apparatus put him through that night. So I am not sure what the answer to this is. Death itself can’t be scary as that’s the end of suffering, its the moments leading up to it that scare me. In old times, people died in their homes and perhaps had much easier times making transition.
We also felt our dad had come to know of his last moments though as he asked to talk to our mom who was not at the hospital when they suddenly decided he needed a ventilator. He told her to not worry as he loved her and that her kids loved her too. I remember you wrote to me then to let him go and I think we all have done that, there’s no choice anyways. But I still cannot understand this immense grief and pain of loss that remains and what it means in the bigger scheme of things.
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Pearl,
Thank you for your heartfelt sharing.
You make an excellent point about modern medical procedure to prolong life. Although I know all will be fine in the long run, I, too, feel excessive manipulation is unnecessary and can even bother the person who is about to make the transition. All those efforts are made with our fear of death and the medical professionals ego to boast that they prolonged life.
We need to accept and even respect death. Especially people in the medicine.
I feel for you and your family’s pain of losing your father. Mourning takes time, and there is no point in hurrying. I’m sure that, when your mourning is complete, you come out with refreshed energy to enjoy life.
Akemi,
I’m also really looking forward to see your review of Journey of Souls, for it answered a lot of questions for me, but also have raised so many others. In general, I accept the concept of the spirit world, which is in my opinion a pretty much wiser approach.
My first and foremost question would be regarding Life lessons and the law of attraction. Now I’m pretty new to the law of attraction concept but I already see some kind of conflict.
Example.
Before we incarnate, we chose our life lessons in order to work on our shortcomings and learn. Let say then that I, before coming to this earth, would have chosen to experience the lack of something, such as money.
Now, if I understand the LoA correctly, basically it is said that in order to have abundance, you must adjust your thoughts towards abundance. Correct me if I’m wrong.
You see where I’m getting at? Before coming to this earth, if I choose to experience lack, so how can the universe respond to my trying to get abundance (such as money)?
it may sound silly or maybe I’m just being picky.
But hey, that’s me.
Cheers to you all
Carl,
I read people’s soul records for my living, and I don’t think souls choose “life lesson” of poverty. The lesson may be abundance, and the soul may choose to be born to a poor family in order to learn this lesson of manifesting abundance, which is a lot more empowering approach than just being born to a wealthy family to begin with.
LOA is there to make sure we learn our life lessons. After all, if things happened randomly, there is no way we get to learn. Instead, we tune in to abundance, and voila, it’s here, so we figure out how to manifest abundance (usually step by step)
Akemi,
“LOA is there to make sure we learn our life lessons”
You pretty much nailed it.
Ah, yes. That makes sense!
“After all, if things happened randomly, there is no way we get to learn.”
I couldn’t agree more. I really do think that nothing is random.
Thanks!
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