How Reincarnation Works

April 28, 2010 by  

Reincarnation is the way we, as souls, have been doing our learning for eons of time. Although there are some souls who are very new to this physical world (I mentioned about this issue of “soul age” when I reviewed Michael Newton’s The Journey Of Souls), most of you have been reincarnated many times.

Reincarnation as a way to experience the world from different perspective

By definition, this physical world requires us to take certain specific perspective. For example, you are either a man or a woman. As a soul, everyone has both male and female energies, more or less of each. But as physical beings, we are either male or female. And we are born at a specific time and place in this three dimensional world even though there are no time and space limitations in the spiritual world. We also chose specific parents and birth settings.

A unique birth setting and life experiences offers a unique perspective. So souls often choose very different — often opposite — perspective to round up the learning process they set out to do. For example, if you were the kind of man who had sexual relationships with women as a way to show off your social power, you, as a soul, may choose to be born as a woman in the following incarnation and live closely with that kind of man, the mirror image of your previous self.

You have the same basic disposition of your starseed, but you are in a very different situation.  This way, you get to experience both sides of the story and learn what non-loving relationships are like — which is a way to learn love.

Likewise, if you were an exploitative factory owner before, you may incarnate in a poor family and eventually work for a difficult boss. If you were a very dogmatic and authoritative religious leader in your past life, you may choose to be a revolutionary next time, another way to use your inner power and to experience leadership in a very different setting.

I have no value judgment for those souls who have “acted out”, so to say. And being born on the receiving end of the scenario is not a punishment. It’s just a way of learning. You don’t have to reincarnate this way, but I see it happen often in my Akashic Record Reading.

Perhaps Hitler is reincarnated as a Jew now. . .

Reincarnation as a way to experience different life choices

Another common way of reincarnation is to set out in a similar birth setting but to explore different path by making different choices. Throughout life, we make many decisions with our free will. Each decision changes the available options in the future and together carves out our life. So even with similar birth settings and dispositions, people live different lives. Some souls choose to explore the options they missed in previous incarnation.

For example, let’s say you were a middle class woman in your past life. You chose to marry with the man your parents chose, a man from the same social and religious group with yourself, even though you were secretly in love with a man from a lower class. You chose to go for parental guidance and social approval rather than being true to your own feelings and asserting yourself.

This doesn’t necessarily mean you made a “wrong” decision and were unhappy for the rest of your life. But that decision defined your life from there on, and you often wondered what may have happened if.

In this life, you may be born in surprisingly similar settings — again, a middle class woman with parents of traditional values (in probably a different country. Souls really like living in different locations.) Again, you are secretly attracted to a man that you know your parents won’t approve of. And they talk how nice it would be if you married with the boy you dated in high school, whose family they know of. So what do you do this time? Do you do the same thing again, choosing the “safe” option that pleases your parents, or do you try something different?

Purpose of reincarnation

These are just two common patterns souls choose their next incarnations. I want to emphasize there is no judgment here. It’s like choosing roles in a play in this world we call reality. I don’t think “good” karma brings good next life and “bad” karma brings bad reincarnation. That view is bound by our limited understanding of what is “good” and “bad”.

We all chose our birth settings. There are special spirits who assist us in this process, but it’s ultimately our choice.  And sure, sometimes we choose to reincarnate in a way that doesn’t really fit our disposition nor our learning plan — like this. But that’s okay, too.

Also, the time a soul spends in between incarnations seem to vary quite a bit. Some souls come back in a few years while some spends many decades, or even centuries, on the other side.

And finally, the question, “Why do we reincarnate? What’s the purpose?  Do we ever quit this cycle of reincarnation?” My understanding is reincarnation is a way of learning. We are the individualized pieces of God, and we are hear to learn Love, Light, Truth, Abundance, and Power, to see what it is like to experience joy and freedom. So when a soul achieves that objective, I wouldn’t be surprised if it stops to reincarnate. That’s the whole point of Ascension.

Do you have any questions about reincarnations? Please let me know by leaving your comments. Thank you.

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14 Responses to “How Reincarnation Works”

  1. Lotus tarot fan on April 28th, 2010 12:15 pm

    Is it true that we must reincarnate until we learn a set of lessons for each stage of spiritual development.
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  2. Akemi on April 30th, 2010 7:10 am


    Well, that’s the whole point of this post.

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  4. Lisa (mommymystic) on May 1st, 2010 8:05 am

    Great overview as usual, Akemi. You always write so clearly on topics that others tend to over-complicate. I particularly liked that you made a point of saying it’s not about judgment or reward and punishment, as that seems to be how people often interpret it, isn’t it? Why is it so hard for us to let go of that idea that the universe/God is an authoritarian, judging figure? I think if we could all just let go of that one perception, it would change so many things.

    Hope you are well:-)
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  5. Rene on May 4th, 2010 12:18 pm

    What is the proof for reincarnation? Is it just memories I have that my parents do not? HOw do we know for sure?

  6. Akemi on May 5th, 2010 9:59 am


    Right on. I think our judgement of what is good and bad are very skewed.


    I don’t think it is scientifically proven yet, we just have many cases that seem to suggest it. Please read my reviews of past regression therapy, “Many Lives Many Masters” and “The Journey of Souls”

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  8. Bruce on May 19th, 2010 6:27 am

    What is the proof for reincarnation? Is it just memories I have that my parents do not? HOw do we know for sure?

  9. Anna on June 11th, 2010 6:38 am

    Reincarnation doesn’t make any sense at all to me. Who or what decides or controls when ‘new’ souls are being produced – last I checked, the world population is still growing – and who will give birth to a new one as opposed to a reincarnated one?

    And choosing your circumstances and your parents? Who came up with that idea? I guess it wasn’t anybody who’d been raped or tortured or mutilated in his or her life. Because then, he or she would only have to blame him- or herself for all the suffering, right?

    And why then would anybody in his right mind want to help such an unfortunate soul? After all, if the situation was one of her own choosing, why change anything or make it easier? Wouldn’t that defy the purpose of the ‘selfimposed’ misery?

  10. Akemi on June 14th, 2010 10:50 am


    Thank you for presenting typical oppositions. I think all the answers are in this blog and obviously they are long — so if you are interested, please look around. There is also an interesting book titled “Courageous Souls”
    (Btw my own life has not been all rosy, but let’s not start the competition of misfortune.)

  11. Chinese zodiac astrology on November 16th, 2010 10:22 pm

    I firmly believe that we reincarnate, everyone experiences these strong feelings of deja vu now and again. I think they are memories from past lives coming to the surface.

  12. Paiden Easley on March 6th, 2011 2:18 am

    I liked your post Anna, you have some great things to say, i just wanted to comment about some interesting perspectives on spirituality. I have a great book called the Auto biography of a yogi, written by Paramahansa Yogananda. It is a fairly commonbook, ever more so. Never the less, he is a wonderful soul with a truly refreshing outlook on everything from spirituality to our physical world.

    A perspective, not unique to him alone, is that, the whole of creation, is merely a dream that god is having, the great dream of existence. We are but a small portion of the vast ocean of god consciousness that takes on many different parts in this dream; and it is our purpose in our present state of god consciousness to expand our consciousness (with ever expanding love) fully to merge once again into the great spirit.

    I was curious to why you disbelieved in karma changing the next life time. As it plays a vital role in balancing the learning of a soul. I agree that souls chose their next lives but i also believe we chose lives that well best help us to reconcile that karma, and ultimately learning from it. However i do not think that everyone has some enormous debt to pay, i think that in the awakened state of the after life, one can see his soul much more clearly with all its beauties and faults. With this realization and awareness the person will naturally chose the next life to “iron out” his faults in the ultimate pursuit of perfection. HOWEVER some souls sleep through their afterlife, until they are forced past karma to return to the earth to hopefully awaken a bit.

    Sorry for such a long post but i love to share spiritual advice, you never know what may unlock the next wave of god consiousness :)

  13. Chad on May 20th, 2011 10:54 am

    I have seeked cousneling from a spiritual advisor and I am going through painful lessons in this life for errors that I have made in previous lives. It is profound, and while proof can never be found for this phenomena; i know it to be true. The spiritual advisor can communicate with spirit and guide me through the growth that I am responsible for acheving while on earth, and it is not easy to do but yet a function that is necessary to my soul being happy and at peace. I am living it right now, and I am proof that reincarnation is real.

  14. eydie sanders on June 11th, 2011 9:02 am

    i loved reading your article. it mirrors very closely my own beliefs. i’m a 54 year old woman who was raised southern baptist. when i was a young teen, i began to question some of the beliefs i’d been raised with. i ran across some books at our local library by a woman named ruth mongomery, a famous reincarnationist. as i read, i remember just thinking, yes! this makes sense to me. i studied her books and have even had a past life regression. the strange part is that the past life regressionist brought out a previous incarnation that i hadn’t even been aware of. i’d gone for clarity about a past life in the late 1800′s, but what came to light was an incarnation i’d had from 1940 to 1956, a year before i was born in this current incarnation(1957). it explained a bunch of things that i’d never fully understood about myself and my interests and preferences. thanks for your article, it was awesome.