Freeing Ourselves From Dualism
November 15, 2009 by Akemi Gaines
Do you believe in dualism? That there are two opposing powers in this world fighting against each other? Such as light vs dark or good vs evil?
After writing about darkworkers, I feel obliged to write about the issue of dualism. Because darkness doesn’t really exist and understanding this is the key to freedom. (Photo credit)
Fighting against darkness is futile
I understand the idea of light vs dark, or God vs Saturn, is thousands of years old in the Christian tradition. Many other religions and cultures have similar concept of dualism.
It is so ingrained in our collective thinking that few people stop and think what darkness really is.
Can you show me darkness? I mean, a substance that causes darkness?
You cannot. Dark is simply the absence of light. You can show me light, but darkness is always a matter of comparison.
So, then, what does it mean to fight against darkness?
It’s a fight against the shadows on the wall. It may look huge and scary, but it’s only a shadow. And naturally, no one — no superman, no super psychic, not even “the one” — can win in this battle. Of course not. It’s just a shadow, an illusion.
Perhaps I am confusing some people. Didn’t I just write about darkworkers? But if you go back and check that article, you notice that my definition of a darkworker, or negative soul, is the soul that is moving away from Light and therefore draining energy from other people. Notice there is nothing about darkness in the definition. And yes, at this time, such souls exist. But darkness doesn’t.
Darkness is something we make up in our mind. It is us who is giving life to the illusion of darkness, just like small kids give life to the shadow on the wall.
It’s time we notice this and wake up.
How to get out of the dualism
It’s actually quite simple. Live in the here and now. Accept everything in the here and now completely with no comparison.
When do you feel the push and pull battle of light and dark, or good and evil? Let’s say you have an important exam tomorrow. You feel you should study tonight — that’s the good, considerate thing to do, right? On the other hand, you are tempted to go to a bar and just goof off. Ah, your lazy, evil twin who gets you in trouble! And what if you start thinking how you can cheat? Now that’s really bad, right?
Do you see it’s your mind playing this game? Your mind (or your ego) can go to a great length in this game. Drawing from your past experiences, your mind casts a grim image of you failing the exam if you don’t prepare for it. It also casts an image of success, which is just as hollow — it’s just expectation, not reality.
The reality is — you are. Period.
Our souls don’t care if something is good or bad. We came to this world to experience. If we don’t like certain experience, that’s just that. Next. If we like certain experience, that’s just that, too. Next. No judgment. They just are.
Seeing life this way may take a bit of getting used to until you get the hang of it. But really, getting out of the dualism is fast and easy. You just see things as they are with no mental chatter.
Reviewing dualities in your life
I encourage you to review what you have thought to be duality. Are they real? Or is one side of duality really non-existent, like darkness?
I think the only true dualities are the technical polarities, like positive and negative charge of electricity or cars moving either direction of the road. In such cases, there is no value judgement. Driving up north or down south are neither better nor worse by itself. While the word “negative” may sound bad, negative charge of electricity is just that — it’s not good or bad. Sometimes, negative is a good thing. When your doctor runs a blood test to see if you are infected with a disease, a negative result is a good news.
Just one more thought on duality
When you examine your idea of duality, you may also notice that some so-called dualities are not opposite but more like pairs.
Men and women are good example of this case. They have different sexual organs, supported by different sexual hormones and genes. In the formation of a new life, they play different roles. However, they are both humans and share a lot of qualities as humans. Men and women are not opposite to each other that forms duality. If they are, when a female manager replaces a male manager, it should cause 180 degree change effects to the organization, for instance. Like putting a battery backwards.
We deal with this kind of fake dualities all the time. Just because two groups of people or two ideas are very different doesn’t mean they are opposite and polarized. Some examples are body and mind, thinking and feeling, rich and poor and meat eaters and vegetarians.
Obviously, there is no reason at all to fight over this kind of non-polarized fake dualities.
What kind of duality controls you? Let me know in the comment 
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Great article, Akemi!
And, yes, a great follow-up to your previous article. It is a good reminder living in a 3D world of “good” and “bad”. Ultimately, all is god. I like thinking of the “dark” as being a shadow. Thanks!
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For me, I don’t dwell on dualism, just accepting the way things are so I dont tend to take sides easily. Some things are not limited to black and white, there is also a grey area. Sometimes the challenge for me is when someone asks ‘whose side are you on?’
Tisha,
Glad you liked the article. Darkness is a shadow, and therefore light is always stronger than darkness. It’s only by illusion that darkness tries to confuse us.
WL,
Yes, that kind of questions require a very diplomatic answer …
If someone asked whose side are you on, I suppose you could always acknowledge the question and acknowledge what you are committed to.
Hi Mary,
Sure. Freeing ourselves from dualism is inner work. It’s not about what we say.
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Duality is part of freedom and love, because without duality we would never learn to choose. Without learning to choose, we would never learn about freedom, therefore choices, therefore duality, to have a choice.
That’s from ebook – A Handbook of Spiritual Psychology by M.Cechanowicz
Just had to bring this up here.
Hi Zuba,
Thank you for joining the discussion.
I totally agree with your point — to some extent. Let me explain. As you know, we, as souls, have been in the long course of learning. And duality helps learning by offering a point of reference. (I went into details about this in this post if you are interested.)
However, time is changing. Many souls are graduating from this rigid learning process. This is part of Ascension. When we are done with the learning, we don’t need duality any longer. In other words, we are ready to integrate the opposing perspectives.
Akemi
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I have often felt dualism while being forced to choose out of the twos. to be made guilty and feel bad if i chose either over the other… as a child and from 19 years then i have been wandering with the THOUGHTS of duality rather than exactly feeling them. i have also never personally felt that smething is good or bad. its just our own conscious that makes a choice which is the most favourable out of the given choices…
bt from a recent experience my mind has started concluding that we keep attracting what we arent in order to complete ourselves. from one extreme to another extreme just like a pendulum. the spirituals say ours is to contemplate and learn rather than judge the path. bt hws it really possible?? mind wanders like a freak .