Soul’s Purpose For Incarnation

“If our essence is the soul, or the spirit, why did we bother to incarnate in the physical body?” As spirit, there was no pain, no fear, no suffering, and certainly no death, right? Didn’t we know we were better off staying in the spirit world rather than coming to this world?

In other words: What is the purpose and meaning of life?

I’ve written a detailed post on life purpose, and that post is still good, but let me reiterate the issue from a new angle because this is a big, important issue. (photo credit)

Soul’s purpose to enjoy

Yep, this is the main thing. We wanted to enjoy this physical world. We wanted to feel the love and abundance, our power to create and manifest, in this tangible world. Your life purpose is to enjoy this physical world.

Are you disappointed? Does “enjoyment” sound unimportant or petty? Were you expecting something holier?

Then let me ask you, what is more holier than enjoying, which is synonymous to praising and appreciating the creation (whether you see the creator as God or yourself)? If you think enjoyment is something worthless, you may be caught up with the “Value must come from sacrifice” and “We are no good and we must suppress ourselves” myth.

But, you may say, this world is full of horrible things. We don’t get to enjoy much.

Well, I’m writing another post to show you that perception is misled.   (It’s published now here.)  All the things in this world are good. But even if we accept there are bad things in life, does that decrease your enjoyment? If you believe in bad things, you enjoy the good things even more, don’t you?

If not, it’s probably you not allowing yourself to enjoy — it’s not the bad things preventing you from enjoyment.

And by saying “Our soul’s purpose is to enjoy this life,” I don’t mean we should all spend the rest of our lives lying on the beach. Lying on the beach is enjoyable some of the time, or all the time for some of the people, but not all the time for all of us. I, for one, will be completely bored after a week or so. (Yes, I actually prefer the cool Oregon weather, and most of the time, I like typing up my articles rather than doing nothing.)

Okay, so enjoyment. How do we really enjoy living then?

Soul’s purpose to express itself

By fully expressing our unique gifts and strengths. You enjoy yourself and your life most when you are fully yourself.  Your life purpose is to be the authentic YOU.

If you try to become someone that you are not, your effort is wasted and you feel bad about yourself. Even if you get money or people’s attention this way, you just feel like a fake and you don’t get to enjoy them really. This is the mistaken way to enjoy “love and abundance.”

To really enjoy love and abundance, we first need to love ourselves completely and unconditionally, and to see the abundant and supportive nature of the universe.

We, each one of us, have unique gifts, and the gifts get even better as we go through our unique life experiences. Recognizing our gifts and figuring out how to express them is one of the most important work you do in your life.

So we can say our soul’s purpose is to express ourselves in an authentic way. Which brings true enjoyment.

Soul’s purpose to learn and to help others learn

When we incarnate, we receive the “veil” that make it difficult to know ourselves. It’s a way to enjoy this life game more. It adds the fun of discovery.

So, to get to the place we fully express ourselves and enjoy this life, there are learnings to do. This is often called learning the “life lessons”. Learning the life lessons is part of the soul’s purpose.

I don’t see this learning process goes on indefinitely, however. With Ascension, many souls are completing the “this is the life lessons, here is a plan to learn them in this world, let’s work on this program” style learning.

Sometimes, we volunteer to help others learn. Our souls are so generous! I’ve seen these souls in my Akashic Record Reading — they’ve been relaxing in the spirit world for eons of time, and then decide to come over. Apparently, there is no big reason they “need to” incarnate, but they volunteer to be here.

How specific your soul’s purpose can be

Some people want to be told something like, “Your life purpose is to go to Africa to save the starving children.” And they are afraid they’d “fail” in life if they don’t do it. Well, in order to do it, they need to know what their specific life purpose is, so they go to psychics for readings.

This is a very poor way to use a psychic. Because, if the psychic (and their spirit guides) is a good one who respects free will, they see the problem of telling clients their specific life purpose. We are not order takers and we define our specific path of life. There are many ways you can express yourself and therefore contribute to the world. Choosing which way you want to take is up to your free will.

For instance, if you are told that your life purpose is indeed to go to Africa to save the starving children, would you do it? Well, you’d better, right? And if you fail to do so, you live feeling bad, fearing the judgment? Do you really think the loving God, who is the very one who gave you free will, would do something like this?

So let go of the idea that there is a life purpose statement hidden somewhere in the sky. Also let go of the idea God is a mean superintendent tracking your progress against the life purpose plan. And while you are at it, let go of your friends in the spiritual circle who make you feel bad because you are not contributing enough money, time, etc for greater causes.

Instead open up and enjoy your life. Be yourself. Praise the miracle of life and create more miracles yourself.

How To Find Your Life Purpose Through Your Life Challenges

Learning the life lessons through experiences in the physical world has been the big part of our souls’ purpose for millenniums of years.  While some souls are graduating from this learning process recently, I know there are many souls who are still working on this level, and I want to help.   (Photo by FreeWine)

How our souls choose to learn our life lessons

When a soul is ready to incarnate, it determines a set of life lessons, and then choose the appropriate birth setting for the best learning opportunities.  Let’s say the soul wants to learn Abundance.  Now which of the following two settings do you think would provide the best learning opportunities?

1. To be born to a wealthy family and just accept the abundance there
2. To be born to a poor family and build his or her abundance, from rugs to riches

Yes, #2 is more challenging but rewarding.  So the courageous soul takes up the challenge.

The trouble is that we forget it when we come to this side of the world.  So now you don’t understand why you were born to poverty while plenty of others are born to reasonably wealthy families.  As you work your way working full time and taking evening classes, and every time you see other kids buying nice stuffs while you worry about paying the rent this month, you wonder, “Why?  Why is life so hard on me?”

The truth is you are right on track.

Let me give you another example of learning Love or Compassion.  For the same reason with Abundance, the soul may prefer to be born to a loveless family so they know firsthand what it is like not to have Love and Compassion.  So that they can grow up to be the Love to the world.

I don’t think we ever choose to learn something negative like Poverty.  We are evolving toward Light.

The pitfall of this “learning by contrast” process

Quite obviously, there is a problem about this learning by contrast process.  Because we are so shortsighted in this physical world and because we don’t clearly remember the life lessons we ourselves chose prior to birth, we may grow bitter and give up the learning altogether.

This is very sad.  Learning the life lessons is one of the purpose of life.  (Life is also about just experiencing this beautiful physical world and expressing our wonderful energy.)  There is no point in sulking and wasting our time.

The awareness of one’s own life lessons is probably one of the best gift of my Akashic Record Reading.  But you can also find your own life lessons through your life challenges.

5 steps to find your life lesson(s)

You need: a few pieces of paper and a few colored pens, a box of tissues, and some quiet time for yourself.

1. On a piece of paper, write down the major challenges in your life. List as many as you want.  Some examples may include (but by no ways limited to):
   • Were you born to an abusive parent?
   • Did your parent die when you were young?
   • Were you born with physical limitations?
   • Were you born to an average middle class family but somehow had trouble connecting to others?
   • Did you repeatedly have trouble with authoritative figures?
   • Did you become a parent at very early age?
   • Did you want children but somehow could not have one?
   • Have you been in abusive relationships?
   • Have you been unhappy with your career?
2. When you are done with step 1, review your list. Now go deeper.  For each challenges, find the quality you have been seeking in each negative situation and write it down in a different color. Connect to your own feeling rather than just jotting down typical answers. This is about YOU.  And try to come up with one or up to three words for each challenge.For example, if you were born to an abusive family, did you want Love? Acceptance?  Or maybe it prompted you to seek Autonomy?  Did it lead you to Compassion with people, animals, to nature?  Or maybe in your special case, it helped you to develop a sense of humor with Lightheartedness?
3. Now review again.  Does a few word appear repeatedly?  Do you see a certain “quality”, a theme that runs through all or most of your challenges? On a second sheet of paper, write down what you think is the main theme, or the life lessons you have been working on.
4. Examine the first list of your challenges with this new awareness of your life theme, or life lessons. Do you see how each “negative” situations contribute to the learning of your life lessons?  Take your time. This is a critical step that can change the way you see your whole life.
5. If you notice a new theme or life lessons emerge from your worksheet, write it down on the second sheet of paper. Repeat step 4 and 5 until you get the “Aha!  This is it.  This is what my life is about!”

Pay attention to your emotional cues

The bigger the emotional hang-ups are, the more likely it is tied to your life lesson.  Is there someone in your life that you feel you can’t forgive?  Forgiveness or the quality that person lacked so much may be one of your life lessons.  Is there something you accused “God” for?  Trust or Openness may be your life lesson as well as the quality that improves that something.

180 degree change in how you see life

When you take the time – and more importantly, the courage – to do this exercise to find your life lessons, something magical happens.   Things that bothered you so much stop having the emotional grip on you. You stop going down the roller coaster that is so familiar to you.

Because now you see what you thought to be a horrible drawback in your life is not that at all.  They were learning opportunities!  And you see it so clearly, not like someone telling you “Well, what did you learn from it?” (Don’t we hate that question.)

People may keep saying unkind words.  They may point out you are disabled or been to jail or single or whatever.  That may annoy you but heck, you know the truth.  (Annoying is annoying.  A mosquito is annoying.  They don’t send you off the emotional shoot.)  You know those people are only talking about their own fear.

Learning the life lessons through positive learning experiences

Further, with the awareness of what your life lessons are, you can attract more positive learning experiences.  You don’t have to go through poverty to realize abundance.  If that is the case, you have to go bankrupt every few years to learn the life lesson of Abundance.  No.  You can learn abundance in a more expansive way.  In this example, how about expanding abundance beyond the monetary sense?  How about doing charity?

By becoming fully aware of your life lessons, you attract more positive learning experiences, which speeds up your learning process.  As a group, we humans are finishing up this “learning by contrast” process and becoming more about being.  So do work on your lessons and graduate the school of life!

No More Life Lessons In The School Of Life

With the recent realization of what life is like once you reach a certain point of your spiritual development, I’d like to amend my article on life purpose.

As I explained in the aforementioned post, once you reach this point of spiritual growth, you are in a whole different ball game.  Using the same analogy I used in that article, you are now sailing on the big wild ocean, fast and free.  The rules and principles that applied to you while you were pushing your boat on the beach simply do not work any longer.  The concept of life lessons is one of them.

At this point, this post is relevant to only a handful of people.  Like the post on soul shifting, please feel free to skip if it doesn’t appeal to you.  I’m writing this for these very special individuals and the people who are heading this way soon.  (Photo by Vardhana)

Life as school to learn our life lessons

Previously, we were to learn a set of life lessons through various life experiences.  We chose these life lessons ourselves prior to incarnation, so it wasn’t like someone was pushing their agenda to us.  Yet the learning was often challenging.  Many of us inadvertently chose negative learning experiences and progressed ever so slowly.    Life was just like a school.

I remember how it was because it wasn’t so long ago I worked hard on this whole life lesson thing.  I was so fervent – nothing was more important for me than learning and completing my life lessons.  The way I saw it – and still do for those who are at this stage of development – is that, if I fail to learn my life lessons in this lifetime, I would have to come back to work on them again, like repeating the same grade in a school.  That surely sucks.  So do whatever to learn them.

My primary life lesson was integration.  I had learned much in my many past lives, and in this life as well, and I was to put everything in coherent context.  Like “Spiritual Healing and Growth for Greater Success”, connecting spirituality and worldly success that many people see as completely separate and even incompatible.  I was to bring the value of unification.  (I don’t know why my spirit guides used this business-like word “unification” rather than more nicey words like “accord” or “harmony”, but that is what they said.)  If you check my posts in December to early January, you can see this learning trend and my passion.

And then it happened. I still don’t know exactly how it happened – evidently I completed my life lessons and reached a point of my spiritual growth, plus there was a grace of the higher “tide”, the planetary change that is benefiting quite a few of us.  I got a new soul.

What it is like once you reach this point of spiritual development

Again, it is a completely different game after this point of spiritual growth.  By now, I have read the Akashic Records of eight individuals who have had this shift, and all confirm the same pattern.  And one of the characteristic of it is that there are no more life lessons.

We have completed the life lessons and graduated from the school of life.  From here, we are completely free and our life purpose is simply to be who we are. No pre-determined life lessons.  Life is not a school any more, but more like a playground.

Since there is no more learning needs, there is no point in trying.  Many people talk about the importance of doing rather than trying, but they only try really hard not to try.  Too complicated.  Once the life lessons drop, however, there is indeed no trying.  We just are.  And we do whatever comes to us naturally and joyously, and this is how we grow even further spiritually.

If you think that kind of “selfish” acts would bring all kinds of havocs and disorders to this world, you are not at the level of spiritual development I am talking about.  It’s okay, take your time.

Another notable characteristic after the shift is there is no more need for healing.  All the new souls I’ve observed are brand-new souls with no past, so there are no energetic blocks and restrictions from the past.  So no need for healing.  All you do is to keep it clean.  Stay away from negativity.  You are not interested in it anyway.

Let me summarize what the new game is like:

• No “learning” of life lessons
• No seeking
• No trying
• No healing, fixing, repairing of the past
• Just be.  Do what delights you and manifest spontaneously.

A few suggestions for those who reached this point of spiritual development

You are probably feeling a significant internal change.  The sudden loss (or more like an evaporation) of your sense of direction, which was so clear and strong before, may feel awkward.  You may also find it difficult to relate to many of your former interests and your friends you were connected through these interests.  Because you are not in the learning of your former life lessons any longer.

My advice is to take it easy.  You are perfectly okay.  And:

1. Feel free NOT to read the kind of books and blogs that don’t hold your interest.  Most personal development books are written for those who are pushing their boat on the beach and so they are not for you any longer.
2. Purge unnecessary stuffs (like those books) from your living environment and simplify your life.
3. Same with interpersonal relationships.  You don’t have to actively break your existing relationships – when you just let things go, only the relationships that are still relevant to the new you will stay and others will fall off on their own.
4. Keep moving forward in your spiritual development.  But know that the way you move forward from here on will be very different from the way you have been “working on” it.  From here on, it’s truly about being.  Enjoy your being.  Be confident in putting your unique wonderful self first.

A few suggestions for those who are not there yet

Don’t despair.  This is not exactly a race.  You are evolving in your own way at your own pace.  And some people are paving your way – nice and kind, right?

Having said this, may I suggest:

1. Have some quiet time alone.  Daily.  This helps you to focus your energy on yourself rather than continuously comparing yourself to others.  Meditation, in the big sense, is a good idea.
2. Learn to be honest to yourself.  Don’t second guess and resist change when you know deep inside you want it.  Whatever that change may be.
3. Do work on your life lessons.  This is about achieving the energetic quality within you.  It’s more about internal work than external work of doing although some doing is perhaps helpful to recognize who you are on the inside.
4. Whatever you do, don’t pretend that you are already “there”.  This is not about “psyching up”.  It has little to do with the thinking mind anyway.

Some commented they are afraid of this soul shift.  There is really nothing to be afraid about it (as long as the first soul moves on properly and the shift is complete.  I have to report this may be quite difficult because all the cases I’ve seen had this problem of the previous soul getting stuck and causing discomfort).

If you are afraid, that is your ego talking.  The ego is the part of our thinking mind who makes judgments based on existing knowledge and experiences.  So of course, the ego is afraid of everything new.  The ego wants to hold onto everything it has now.  But you are not your ego.

I must say it feels really good out here.  It’s like all (or at least most) of the clouds are magically gone.  Love and freedom have new meanings for me.  So come join me ^_^

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